The Skeptic

​As a medium, I love when my clients have a healthy skepticism. This skepticism not only makes me work a little harder to demonstrate life does continue after death, but it also leaves me with a greater sense of satisfaction in my work as the proof converts the skeptic into a believer that now has a feeling of peace and hope. It is why I practice evidential mediumship.
 
Sometimes that skepticism goes a little too far. In my years reading I have witnessed people going to great lengths in an effort to thwart any mentalism or visible cues that would give insight into their life. People have taken off their wedding rings before the reading so I didn’t know they were married. Worn clothing to cover up tattoos of loved ones names. At house parties, people have admitted to hiding family photos so I can’t size up who is missing. I’ve even had clients hesitant to give my husband a name while booking and have asked, “Is she going to Google me?”
 
I completely understand this fear, I AM a skeptic! (For more about that check out my blog I Get Readings TOO) Despite the fact that I do some of these same things, seeing my clients do them always makes me chuckle because those actions are completely unnecessary.
 
First off, for those of you who worry a reader might be Googling you. Quite honestly, the time it would take to gather the information necessary to convince you I’m the real deal is not worth the money being exchanged for the reading. Especially since it has been my experience it is not the information that I can Google that is going to convince you your loved one is really there. My clients are more impressed when I tell them their loved ones favorite flavor ice cream than when I hit the name.
 
Secondly, the cues you might be afraid the reader is going to pick up on actually mean less than you think they do. I actually try very hard NOT to look at a person as the subtle cues throw me off.
 
So for you hopeful skeptics out there who wish to be wowed, here are some tips on how to get the best reading.

1. Don’t Say Too Much – You are going to want to exchange pleasantries and small talk when you greet your reader, it is human nature! In this exchange, be mindful about how much information you are giving the reader before the session starts. As the reader, I prefer not to hear “I’m here hoping to connect with X, Y or Z” or “I’m having a really tough time with (fill in the blank). I was hoping you could give me some clarity.” While it helps your Spirits to know this is what you want to hear about, it’s better that you don’t tell me. By not telling me you are going to be more satisfied when the loved one you hoped for shows up, or the question you had is answered. It also prevents my preconceived notions from stepping in.

1. Let the Reader Do Their Job – Along the lines of Not Saying TOO Much, if the reader says, “I have a woman.” Don’t respond, “It’s my mom!” Rather, let the reader give more details so it is demonstrated that it is your mother – then you can confirm it’s your mom and the reader can say what she has to say. By doing this, there will be NO doubt in your mind that the loved one you were hoping for came through. But also, it helps the reader establish a stronger connection with that loved one which will result in a more specific, better message. It’s a win-win.

1. Be Yourself - If you are worried about me seeing a wedding ring or tattoo, you are likely fidgeting and unintentionally bringing attention to it. Let it be. Quite honestly, most readers won’t even notice it then AND YOU will be more comfortable during the reading.

1. Be Open – Finally, be open to various interpretations about what the reader is saying. The reader is just the conduit and the interpreter. Unfortunately, as the message is translated from one language to another, subtleties are sometimes lost.

 
Hope these tips help, they are only a few of many.  And remember, skepticism balanced with an open mind is what is going to get you the best reading. With this in mind, I hope your next reading blows your socks off.