Get What You Expect

​I LOVE when a client has a healthy skepticism. Makes me work harder which results in those moments of amazement (for both me AND the client). That’s what I live for.
 
What I don’t like is when a client comes in and is so skeptical that they are dismissive of anything that might come through. In those cases, the client is likely to get EXACTLY what they expect…. An unsatisfying reading. This wastes their time and it wastes mine.
 
That was the case a few weeks ago. A long term client brought a friend of hers for a reading. She booked the appointment, showed up with him and decided to wait while he sat with me.
 
It immediately became apparent that SHE was excited. HE was not.
 
But, I continued to be cheery and upbeat hoping to break through the wall that he had built. In doing so, I made small talk asking one of the questions I almost always ask, “So have you had a reading before?”
 
When he answered “No,” I was not surprised. Without skipping a beat I asked my next standard question – “Are you excited? Nervous? A little of both?”
 
His response, “None of the above” reeked with a condescension I don’t think I’ve ever received from a client. I tried not to let my surprise stop me, but in that moment I knew in my gut this reading WAS NOT going to go well. But, I breezed past it and prayed that his guides and loved ones help me help him. He was, after-all, in my office for a reason.
 
And, fortunately his loved ones stepped in quickly. Not only that, they provided specific details in an effort to validate their presence.
 
I paid close attention to his body language and despite the concrete facts, the mocking smirk never left his face and his arms remained crossed. I paused a few times to see if he would ask a question (I make it clear in my introduction that if something isn’t making sense I want to be stopped), he didn’t. So finally I stopped, telling him it was apparent he wasn’t understanding the messages and that I thought we should not continue.
 
His friend was surprised to see us walk out of my office so soon. She and I hugged and we parted ways.
 
After walking them out, my husband turned to me and said, “Didn’t go very well huh?”
 
I explained the situation and all my husband had to say was, “Yup. Not surprised. He was dragged here. Something even I noticed when he arrived. His friend hoped you’d be able to make a believer out of him and bring him some peace with the death of a loved one, but he really didn’t want to be here.”
 
From the client’s body language to the insight my husband relayed, the client got exactly what he expected. He was closed off to what Spirit was providing. So rather than taking the information and trying to relate it, he dismissed it. In hindsight, knowing that he was looking for a woman, when I said “I have a man,” he likely immediately dismissed it and barely listened to the descriptors. He also likely missed out on a great deal of messages that were coming through to him.
 
What can you take away from this? Here are a few recommendations as to how you or a friend can get a good reading.
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First, if you know someone you think would benefit from a reading or someone thinks you could benefit from a reading but are very hesitant – Don’t push them or allow yourself to be pushed. Readings happen when they are supposed to. An individual who is pushed into a reading tends to be highly skeptical and go into the reading with unrealistic expectations. With that in mind, they are likely to get a less than stellar reading which, rather than leaving them with hope, will leave them with more skepticism and, perhaps worse, despair.
 
Secondly, Don’t set up expectations or “test” the reader. Some individuals tell their loved ones to give them a particular sign or say a particular phrase during the reading. For example, one gentleman told me after the reading if his loved one hadn’t mentioned M&Ms, he wouldn’t have been sure it was her because that was his sign. Fortunately, in this case he received what he needed but had the reader mentioned something similar he may not have received that message and walked away disappointed and still skeptical.
 
Finally, Don’t get TOO hung up on the details. Even a very good reader only has about a 90% accuracy rate. Why? It is very rare for the reader to restate what the Spirit is saying verbatim. Rather the reader is translating a variety of symbols and certain details may be lost along the way. Additionally, because the reader is often getting information from your loved ones, they are sharing their opinion… which as we all know, isn’t always correct.
 
Remember these few things, and you will likely be surprised at how good a reading can be.

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