For those of you who are parents, you know all too well that being a parent is more than a full-time job. It is a 24 hour, 7 day a week, 52 week a year responsibility. Whether my daughter is with me or not, I’m still on duty. Who knows when something might come up that needs the attention only a mother can give. As a result, the phone is always on Just in Case…
Being a medium is kind of the same thing. While I try to take time for the family (and myself), keeping the Spirits around me quiet is sometimes hard to do. You see, because I want to be connected and be alerted by my guides if something needs to be addressed, my “psychic hotline” is always open “just in case.”
As a result, there are occasions while I’m at the grocery store when Spirit approaches me in hopes that I will talk to his/her sister, mother or brother. Or more frequently, a Spirit, waiting for their loved one’s appointment, will pop in early and begin talking with me in hopes of having that appointment come sooner – this happened the other day when a Spirit (at 3am mind you) insisted that I call his wife RIGHT THEN (didn’t happen).
These eager Spirits are kind and usually respectful. In fact, it’s usually MY Spirit family that likes to push the boundaries. For example, my grandfather thinks it is hysterical to pop in with me while I’m in the bathroom taking a shower (a no-no in my house). And my father in law’s favorite time to visit is while my husband and I are lying in bed trying to fall asleep (another no-no). These, however, are the exceptions not the norm. Like I said, Spirit is usually respectful.
Why is that? I think it is because I have learned to say no (one of the hardest things to do). I am protective of my time, being certain to schedule in family and me time and have regular hours during which I will take appointments. And perhaps more importantly I came to the realization that just because the “line” rings, doesn’t mean I have to pick it up. I depend upon my guides to triage these “calls” outside of normal business hours having them serve as my caller id and call forwarding, screening my calls and forwarding those to the appropriate time and place.
This allows me to be open all the time (for my highest and best), and yet at the same time maintain my personal space and not be bombarded by Spirits hoping to get through. My guides are wonderful “bouncers,” being a tough sell to get through.
Now, I just have to remember to trust them. And, more importantly have the restraint not peek at who is calling or why and trust my guides will bring it at the right time. Easier said than done, but I’m working on it! And in the meantime, keeping my line open.
Being a spiritual being in a physical body is HARD. Logically, I know that my happiness is not wrapped up in the things I own or the awards I receive. And, I want to pursue my passions and fill my life with experiences. Unfortunately, living on the physical plan those pursuits are often stifled by my worries about practicalities. I worry, “Should I really be spending this money on a trip? What if the furnace goes?” or “Aren’t I being selfish taking days off? Shouldn’t I be working around my clients schedules? Am I losing business because I’m being too inflexible?” Which of course equates to lost revenue, which in turn makes me worry, “Will I be able to pay my bills?”
Each month I do and in my heart and soul, I know that these worries are foolish. I (and my family) have always had what we’ve needed. Most of the time we’ve also had the things we’ve wanted!! But, these worries linger and make me slow to commit myself to anything monetarily (especially in business) until I see or understand the return on investment (ROI).
As I look back to last year, I see this was the case when I was approached by my dear friend Judy from Awakenings. Awakenings, a Spiritual Center which had been housed in the Roycroft, was growing. To facilitate this growth, it became apparent to her that she need a larger location. In order to afford that and in a desire to cultivate a community, she hoped to sublet some of the space to practitioners.
I was honored to be one of the first people she approached. And my intuition led me to commit immediately. Which I regretted as I thought on it. The more I thought about it, the more I began to second guess my intuition. All I could think was: Could I afford the office? I hadn’t budgeted for it. And what about child care? Who would watch the baby? If we had to put her in daycare, what costs would be associated with that? Again something I hadn’t budgeted for. Not only that, would clients come and see me in the Southtowns? I’d always been located north of Buffalo… did I have the clients to support the office there?
The worry grew and grew. But, I had committed and wasn’t going to back out of that. Judy was now counting on me as one of her renters! I had to be fair to her.
Then an opportunity presented itself. A friend, who was also considering moving to WillowLight (the new name of the community), mentioned she had some of the same concerns regarding the space. After talking to my husband about it, we asked her “What do you think about sharing space?”
It seemed to make sense and she jumped on it.
We moved in together. Divided up the week. Brought things in and decorated our parts of the room.
And at first, this arrangement seemed to be going well. I was working a lot. My days were filled with clients. I was enjoying having the time to work.
But, then something was off. I didn’t feel like I could completely settle in…
And then, one of my clients said something. She was at a reading at my office and commented, “You know, this is really nice and all. But, I think I prefer your home office. It feels more you than this does.”
At that moment, I looked around and realized the office really had become a statement of my office mate, not me. Not that I was complaining, she was a lovely decorator… but it was her taste and a reflection of her. I realized the space wasn’t really mine. I was sharing it, after all. In that moment, I realized I really wanted my own space. Someplace to fill with MY energy.
I wasn’t going to push my colleague out. I had signed a lease and committed to sharing the space. AND it had been my idea. But, I decided when the opportunity to have my own space came along, I was going to seize it. Especially since I knew after reviewing my financials the office was paying for itself.
It was right after the New Year that opportunity to have my own office did present itself.
During a conversation between my colleague and our landlord, she revealed to the landlord she had been pondering looking for a way to get out of the lease. Judy encouraged her to speak with me as she couldn’t let her out of the lease unless I was willing to absorb her portion. Judy also knew that it was a concept I would be open to.
And I was.
As of February 1st, I’m excited to say the office is ALL MINE. And this time, I have no concerns. Except, perhaps what color to paint the space!
Spirit presented me with the opportunity, not once but TWICE. They also provided me with the evidence to sway my vote. Fortunately, things that are meant to be are not just on Spirit’s time, but also on ours.
As a medium, I love when my clients have a healthy skepticism. This skepticism not only makes me work a little harder to demonstrate life does continue after death, but it also leaves me with a greater sense of satisfaction in my work as the proof converts the skeptic into a believer that now has a feeling of peace and hope. It is why I practice evidential mediumship.
Sometimes that skepticism goes a little too far. In my years reading I have witnessed people going to great lengths in an effort to thwart any mentalism or visible cues that would give insight into their life. People have taken off their wedding rings before the reading so I didn’t know they were married. Worn clothing to cover up tattoos of loved ones names. At house parties, people have admitted to hiding family photos so I can’t size up who is missing. I’ve even had clients hesitant to give my husband a name while booking and have asked, “Is she going to Google me?”
I completely understand this fear, I AM a skeptic! (For more about that check out my blog I Get Readings TOO) Despite the fact that I do some of these same things, seeing my clients do them always makes me chuckle because those actions are completely unnecessary.
First off, for those of you who worry a reader might be Googling you. Quite honestly, the time it would take to gather the information necessary to convince you I’m the real deal is not worth the money being exchanged for the reading. Especially since it has been my experience it is not the information that I can Google that is going to convince you your loved one is really there. My clients are more impressed when I tell them their loved ones favorite flavor ice cream than when I hit the name.
Secondly, the cues you might be afraid the reader is going to pick up on actually mean less than you think they do. I actually try very hard NOT to look at a person as the subtle cues throw me off.
So for you hopeful skeptics out there who wish to be wowed, here are some tips on how to get the best reading.
Hope these tips help, they are only a few of many. And remember, skepticism balanced with an open mind is what is going to get you the best reading. With this in mind, I hope your next reading blows your socks off.
In my line of work, I never know who I am going to meet.
People of both genders, all ethnicities, races, sexual orientations, religions, occupations and socioeconomic backgrounds end up sitting in my chair. Each of them walks in with the same mix of excitement, curiosity, nerves and often a hint of skepticism. They also walk in with hope and desire to connect.
Upon first glance, all my students and clients look the same. Perhaps one is more dolled up than another. One may be a little more gruff or outspoken. But in the end, they all have the same sparkle in their eyes. They could be the richest or smartest person in the world. I don’t know.
That is until I connect with their guides and loved ones. These lovely Spirits give me a glimpse into who the client or student is as an individual. When I get that glimpse and see how special and unique the person is, I find myself asking “Why do they need me? S/he is pretty freakin’ cool!”
I had that experience one winter day while at a house party in a lovely, historic home in the Buffalo area. As I read the hostess, all I kept getting were sports references and philanthropy. I then came to realize her husband was a famous Buffalo athlete!
There was also a time while at psychic fair in Rochester a young gentleman sat down at my table. During the reading, I was seeing images of beakers and white substances being produced. It was also clear to me that this product was making him A LOT of money. At this point I thought for certain he was cooking up something he shouldn’t, but turns out nope, he was not only the owner but also the chemist behind an up-and-coming sugar replacements.
I’ve also had the opportunity to engage with a lovely woman, always fashionably dressed, who frequents my classes. During the classes she always incredibly insightful questions. As it turns out, not only is she a gifted medium, she is a renowned set and art director!
Then there is my world traveler. I have a client who I never know where she is calling from as since I’ve known her, she has lived in London, Paris, Chicago and Florida! And despite the fact she has had readings with others, she continues to come back to check in.
I could go on and on. But, I think you get the point. People are pretty amazing!
Seeing these people’s lives and the success they have had, would lead one to assume (even me) that they have all the answers and their lives are honky dory. And they probably are to a point.
But then I remember that despite the fact that they have done inspiring, exciting things, they are not done yet. How can I be certain of that? They are alive. As long as we are still living and breathing, our journey is not yet over. Hence they are still searching for something.
I feel honored and humbled that amazing people choose me to offer them guidance and help their journey. And it’s not just the famous or overly successful people I’m grateful for. Everyone who walks through my door, for a reading or class, touches me with their uniqueness and success. The love each of you brings to those you touch is pretty awesome. And the insight you seek, thank you for letting me touch in with your Spirits and be part of your journey! I am humbled.
If you read my blog, Playing in the Big Leagues, you know that I was excited to be part of the Evolving Essence Psychic Fair circuit in Buffalo and Rochester. It validated me as a reader and was a phenomenal way to grow my business.
When I first started doing the fairs, I knew there were lots of politics. People warned me. I was told beware. Those people are evil. They are backstabbers. And sometimes the “spiritual” people will see themselves as all high and mighty and righteous, but are actually downright nasty. (Check out this article for more about that!) And it’s true. I experienced lots of fake smiles. Fake hugs. There were always arguments over space. Arguments over people’s set up. It was like high school all over again. More than one person has left because of this drama.
Knowing this. And seeing it. I would tell people I didn’t want to do that fairs forever. But, then I would become practical and rationalize that the fairs are a great marketing tool as it keeps me in the public eye. So I’d stay.
That is no longer the case.
This past year, the fairs were really tough on me. For one, I’m a new mom. And, I’ve been spoiled. Being self-employed, I am able to spend a lot of time with my daughter. The ten/twelve hour days that I would work at the fairs ate into that.
Not only that, this past year there were SOOOOOO many fairs. At one point there were six weekends of fairs in a row. One that’s a lot of work, but two… because there was more of them we saw less attendance at each of the individual events.
Finally, I just got sick and tired of the other readers. Being non-confrontational, I tried to keep out of the nonsense. Would go. Set up. Help the people I could. Tear down. And leave. I didn’t want to get into the mix of any of it. Some of the readers on the fair are just out right mean. Perhaps it is the stress of life. Perhaps the stress of the fairs. Or maybe it’s just the way they are. But then I started to get pulled in.
It started on my first show back from “maternity” leave. Baby Girl wasn’t even a month old yet. Because I was nursing, we kept her close at hand all weekend at the event… Many readers and clients oohed and aahed over her, so there was an air of lightness. But underneath it was a cold shoulder.
That cold shoulder got worse in January. It was at that show my husband and I were approached by the promoter about a complaint that he was “hooking.” Don’t get excited… no Don was not standing outside the fair showing some leg. Hooking, a BIG no-no at the fairs, is when the reader has a person roaming the fair and pitching one reader in hopes of filling that reader’s schedule. We know this is a no-no, not to mention unethical and encourage people to feel out the room and go where you feel comfortable. We believe this so strongly we even did a whole You-Tube video on how to pick a reader!!
But, another reader who I’m guessing was a little slow that weekend overheard a portion of a conversation and complained. What happened? At the VERY end of Saturday, an individual came up to my table and told me Don had told her I was his wife and just wanted to meet me. But, did that individual sit down with me for a reading? No. Why? She was another vendor. The vendor by the way that was back to back with the booth, Bella Earthica, that my husband was running for a friend of ours. How did I come up? They had been making small talk.
Having been approached by the promoter we explained this to her. We also pointed out that even if this woman wanted to get a reading, she wouldn’t have been able to. I was booked solid with pre-books all weekend. The promoter assured both of us, “Don’t worry. I know he’s not doing that… They are just being dramatic and I just have to appear to have addressed it.”
Well the situation wasn’t resolved. The coldness continued. I ignored it.
I was in Rochester. I had drove in Saturday morning with my friend Kristina from Ailuros Designs. After I was all set up and finding myself in the crossfire between two readers, I headed to the bathroom to pump before the day started. I plopped myself in the back stall and let the machine do its work. It was between the loud whooshes I heard a familiar voice. The voice of a reader I considered to be friendly.
HA… I was mistaken. What did I hear? It started with, “Can you believe that Dawn Lynn?” What was her complaint? In an effort to get people in the doors, I had offered any client who pre-booked a reading $10 off. This covered my client’s door fee. Well apparently, she didn’t like that and went on to bad mouth me for minutes.
I sat in that stall, hoping I could finish in enough time to walk out and look her straight in the eye. But alas, she was gone.
I almost walked out that day, but pulled myself together and dealt. Again.
But not anymore, I’m done.
There was one more straw which I’m not going to go into. But, the day the decision was made, Spirit aligned messages to prove to that it was time to leave the fairs. The morning of the final straw, I woke up and checked my Timehop. I’m obsessed with this app and love to see what happened in years past. This day, a quote popped up: “Sometimes you just have to erase the messages, delete the numbers and move on. You don’t have to forget who that person was to you; You just have to accept that they aren’t that person anymore.”
Later that day, I found myself doing some book keeping. In reviewing my numbers, to my surprise, my more lucrative months were the ones I didn’t have fairs! This is a win-win for both me and my clients. I don’t have to work quite as hard AND my clients get a better deal. Due to the $400+ booth fee at events, I have to charge my clients more per reading just to cover expenses. For the same fee, clients get double the reading at my offices.
Then hearing that my close friend, Sue of Autumn Dawn and BellaEarthica had decided to quit the fairs, everything was aligning me to believe that the Evolving Essence Fairs are no longer the place for me. So if you look for me there, I’m sorry to say… I won’t be there any longer.
And please don’t get me wrong. I am grateful to have had the opportunity to participate in them. I am grateful for the experiences I have had. I am grateful for those of you I met there… It’s just not an energy I wish to associate myself with any longer. It is amazing the relief I feel knowing I won’t be subjecting myself to that negativity. I thank Spirit for helping me see that.
And just because I’m giving up the Evolving Essence fairs, doesn’t mean I’m giving up the business. I’m always available for private readings and house parties. And who knows where else Spirit may lead me.
It’s been a crazy few days. The full moon has really done a number on me. So this morning when I received a twitter response from an astrologer telling me I received a free astrological reading, I thought COOL. I’ve been thinking about getting an astrological reading for years and just made an appointment with the very talented Cassandra Butler, but she isn’t available until July 24th. So, what could it hurt to see what this is about… it is FREE after all.
So I clicked the link. A new page popped up and I was asked for my email address and birthdate. Made sense because both would be needed to complete an astrological chart. What wasn’t asked for was my birth time. Odd. The reader wouldn’t be able to know my rising sign. I dismissed this, maybe it’ll be asked for later.
After I hit submit, I found out I was added to the mailing list. Eh, for a free reading, I can unsubscribe if need be. Nothing in life is free, right?
But then came my first red flag that something might not be totally on the up and up. With my confirmation, there was a request for my phone number. With this request came fine print. By providing my number I would be willing to receive automated and sales calls. I promptly declined this. While I am open to received spam, I’m not willing to accept phone calls.
At this point I was skeptical, but still hopeful. Then I got an e-mail from the reader with “first impressions.” In this e-mail, the reader indicated that they felt I was in “some kind of emergency.” Followed in the next sentence, “I specifically felt that you live (or work?) in, or near, a city beginning with the letter “E”, maybe it is East Aurora?” In the following paragraph, there is a link to connect to a talisman so we can get a better connection and communicate telepathically.
Oh goodness… you don’t have to have my spidey senses to see all the red flags.
Now let me break this down and why I feel like this is a scam. First off, the “free” reading was in response to my tweet about sticking to my values and beliefs. Which would indicate something might not me “right” in my life. Also, it would be unlikely I would click for a reading if something wasn’t going on. It’s rare for someone to get a reading if everything is hunky dorey.
Were you impressed that he mentioned East Aurora? Yes. I AM in fact working out of my office East Aurora today. But, no need to be impressed that he knew that. While I’m not a computer genius, I do know enough about computers to know that when a submission is made on a website the recipient can trace the IP address. That IP address will tell you the town (and perhaps even what part of town) where a person is.
As for the talisman…. Wondering what it is? Me too. But, I DID NOT click the link he provided to download the file. (My husband, the techie, would be very proud!) Why didn’t I download it? The download most likely is spyware. This spyware would allow the reader to gather personal information about myself that they could then use to lead me to believe they were very talented OR worse, take bank numbers, passwords, etc to steal my identity as well as my money.
This makes me sad all around, as this is a stigma I fight all the time. One reason why I don’t use the word psychic on my literature. Bad apples like the Miss Chleos and this individual place question on the whole profession. My recommendation from you… be leary. If someone comes to you, they probably aren’t legit. I’ll wait til the 24th for my reading. I know it’ll be a good one.
A little more than a month ago I took a leap of faith and opened an office in East Aurora. It’s located in the WillowLight complex on Route 16 across from Knox Farm. I was excited, but nervous at the same time. Why? Mostly because I committed without actually ever seeing (or feeling) the space. Being sensitive to energy (and a little bit of a control freak), this was a big move for me. But, I trusted my guides and my friend, Judy Hartke, knowing each would do right by me.
Nevertheless, on move in day I was armed with my sage and copal. I was ready to bless the space and clear out anything that was not for the highest and best. To my shock and relief, none of it was necessary. The office space was energetically clean and sterile, a blank slate.
At least at first. That changed VERY quickly.
Within days of moving in, the practitioners and many of my students began to notice (as well as comment on) that there was A LOT of Spirit activity. No one felt threatened. The Spirits seemed to be loving and well intentioned. There just seemed to be a lot of it. And I naively thought the energy was high because there are such amazing light workers here and that the Spirits had shown up because they were excited at what we are creating here. The Spirits were good after all, so why should I worry?
It wasn’t until the Spirits began to be distracting that I realized something was amiss. During a lunchtime meditation I found myself having to close the door because a little girl was playing hide and seek and kept vying for my attention. Later that same day during a practice circle, several accomplished student mediums found themselves communicating with Spirits whom the sitter didn’t seem to recognize or connect to… Something wasn’t right.
It took me a couple days, but then it hit me… I had been so worried about the energy that might already be in the office space I didn’t even consider the energies I was bringing with me. The Spirits that had been hanging out were MY CLIENTS.
Over the years, I have found that it is not uncommon for Spirits to show up early for a reading. I’ve always joked that the back room of my home (the space I do readings in) is my “waiting room.” My rule has always been, as long as they stay in my reading room and don’t bother me, my husband or my babies (fur babies included!) they are welcome to hang out there as long as they like. I hadn’t thought what this would mean when I moved into my new office.
What did my new office mean for the Spirits? It meant they suddenly had somewhere else to hang out. And at the office, because I didn’t specify, they now not only had more than triple the space, they also suddenly had the opportunity to interact with people… The office had become a giant waiting room for my Spirit Guests to wander around and poke anyone who was around. Not COOL!
After realizing this, I immediately took action and began to clean up my mess. A “waiting room” has been created and there is now only a couple of places Spirit can hang out. And under no circumstances are they are not allowed to bother the other practitioners or students.
Now back to the peace, tranquility and quiet.
One of my favorite things to do is observe how others work with and perceive Spirit. I love to quietly watch individual’s auras morph and a glittery rain (that’s what it looks like to me) wash over them as they connect with Spirit. I do this in the classes I facilitate, mediumship demonstrations at the Lily Dale stump or Spiritualist churches I attend, and when I have a free moment at the psychic fairs I participate in. It is a beautiful sight that makes me teary just thinking about it.
While watching this energy, I’ve often thought it would be awesome if mediums were to get together and bounce this energy around while passing messages. Being a visual person, I imagine it to look like a laser light show that Disney would put one. It’s something I’ve personally never actually seen done, and to be quite honest doubted it ever would be. You see, as a general rule mediums tend to work alone. One, let’s be honest every medium (myself included) has a little bit of ego and who wants to be out shined by another medium! And two, and probably the bigger reason is that during mediumship training many instructors (at least in the traditional sense – I tend to go rogue here) tell you DO NOT, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES PIGGY BACK. Bouncing the energy around could be considered piggy backing, hence by many would be considered a big no-no. Well, Spirit apparently doesn’t think it’s a no-no, because they have recruited a blonde, a brunette and a ginger to do just that. Are you afraid? I’m not... maybe that’s because I’m the brunette.
You may be saying to yourself, “Am I missing something? I don’t get it.” Well, here’s the scoop. A little more than a month ago, Lily Dale Medium Celeste Elliott (the redhead) reached out to Reverend Kathleen Boldt (the blonde) and myself to see if we would be interested in collaborating on a project (or two or three). Both are very talented mediums that I have a high regard for, so I jumped at the opportunity. At our first meeting at a Panera Bread, we chatted and laughed and after all that decided to host an event, Catch the Spirit, on May 29th. This gave us only about two months to get it planned, and there was lots of work to get done!
And get it done we have. At this point, the event is only a little more than two weeks away, and let me tell you, it has been an interesting and fun ride. We each bring different skills and personalities to the table. For the past two years, I’ve been self-employed and the only three people I’ve really had to answer to have been my husband, Baby Girl and Spirit. So working with two strong, intelligent women has been invigorating and given me a different perspective. We all need that every now and again!
With such a short time frame, it’s been nerve wrecking. Especially since this is something none of us have ever done before, nor have we seen it done! But, we trust Spirit who keeps telling each of us – “Don’t worry! You’re going to be great!”
To lessen our nerves, we decided to practice on our friends and family. Oh what fun it was!! And interesting as well. Kathleen, Celeste and I are each trained differently and have different delivery styles. It was amazing to see how we were each able to complement one another, a few tweaks will need to be made… but overall, it was exciting. It stretched me beyond my comfort zone as I found myself channeling the energies. My guides were definitely right when they have sung Josh Groban’s You Raise Me Up, as I truly felt that around the two I was “more than I can be.”
So we have some tweaks to make for the 29th… and I’m sure between now and then my nerves are going to be a roller coaster. I’ll just keep reminding myself, that ultimately how an event goes is up to Spirit. I will condition myself to be the best medium I can be, but Spirit is the star and the director. Fortunately, Spirit has NEVER let me down.
Want to see the three of us in action? Come out on the 29th! More information can be found here.
It’s hard to believe, but it has been more than a year and a half since Spirit first brought me to Awakenings in East Aurora (if you haven’t had a chance to read that Blog, you should!). I consider myself fortunate to be part of this marvelous center. The wonderful people who teach and attend sessions there have truly become family. AND, it’s situated right in the heart of East Aurora. Can’t get any better than that!
Never been to East Aurora? You are missing out! The Village of East Aurora has always held a special place in my heart. Perhaps it is due to the draw of Vidler’s and the other quaint shops on Main Street; or maybe the fond memories of the Toy Fest parade; or, it could be that my favorite doctor, an optometrist by the name of Dr. O’Connor, has his office there. Whatever the reason, I have always loved East Aurora and had envisioned myself with a home there.
Unfortunately, due to my visual impairment which prohibits me from driving, while my husband and I were house hunting a few years ago, it quickly became apparent that despite our mutual love for East Aurora, it was not a practical choice. Which is okay because we found a cozy place in an idyllic neighborhood in Snyder. With the fire house across the street, a community center and park at the end of the block, and several yummy restaurants within walking distance, I wouldn’t want to be anywhere else!
Despite that, sometimes while driving through East Aurora I daydream and think, “It would be so nice to have a home here.”
That daydream is coming true! Those of you who have been keeping up with me via Facebook and Twitter know that as of May 1st, I will have that “home” in East Aurora! Awakenings has outgrown its space at the Roycroft and is MOVING. Their new location is at 500 Buffalo Road, right across the street from Knox Farm. It is a lovely space, with five offices and two classrooms that will be known as WillowLight. Judy has envisioned the space as a community for spiritually minded professionals. Guess who she envisioned as one of those practitioners? That’s right, this girl!
And guess what this girl had in her strategic plan this year? That’s right – having an office! Or to put it more appropriately, a space outside of the home where my husband and I can to do work and see clients. We have found since Baby Girl was born, we have become incredibly inefficient because our work hours are constantly being interrupted by parenting and household duties. In order to keep up with our own businesses, we decided that we needed someplace to “go.”
Don and I had just started the conversation about where the office would be located, what our budget would be, etc. when Judy from Awakenings approached us about the community she was hoping to create. If we had any doubts that this may be the path we were destined for, when she presented the concept you would have sworn she was a fly on the wall during our personal conversations. The language she used was identical to the verbiage Don and I had been using. She mentioned that she thought this could be our “southtowns” location (Don and I planned on having a north and south location to meet our clients needs!) AND the price she quoted was the exact number we thought we could manage without having to stretch ourselves. As an added bonus, this new office is only ten minutes from all our babysitters!
It never ceases to amaze me how when something is meant to be, the details fall into place. Thank you Spirit for giving us the signs and making it easy!
Now all I have to do is figure out décor !
When I started my career as a professional medium, I knew that if I was going to succeed I needed to be part of the Evolving Essence Psychic Fair that takes place at the Hearthstone Manor. Any reader worth their weight was on that fair! And, four years ago, after a couple of years of participating in small psychic fairs across New York State, I was invited to participate. I remember thinking, “I’ve made it!!”
As I prepare for this year’s fair season, it’s hard to believe it’s been four years! I vividly remember shopping for table decorations at JoAnn Fabric, packing my suitcase for the show, getting to the Hearthstone Manor early to line up with the other readers to ensure I would get the “perfect” spot, and then once the doors opened rushing to find and snag it.
Thanks to my guides, my first show I was able to snag a spot in the middle of the back wall right across from the entry doors smack dab between two well known readers… PRIME REAL ESTATE. As I staked my claim, I received a looks that said the following “Who are YOU?” and “What makes you think you deserve that spot? Who do you think YOU are?”
I’d been warned about the fair politics and wasn’t surprised by these glances. I ignored them and continued to quietly set up.
That first weekend at the Hearthstone Manor psychic fair was a whirlwind and I opted to keep to myself. That is until I was invited to dinner with the “crew.” At that time, many of the readers would go to Alton’s diner after the show to kibitz… I was very excited they invited ME! And I readily agreed.
That evening I felt myself transform from an amateur to a professional. I was playing in the “big leagues!” The other readers accepted me as their peer and more importantly I saw myself as their equal. Since then the relationships have continued to grow, and many have gone from my peers to my friends. So as I prepare for the upcoming fairs, I look forward not only to a successful season but to seeing my friends.
There are times that being a medium sucks and I wish I could be “oblivious” to Spirit like the majority of our population. This week was one of those times.
Over the past few weeks, I’d had an awful wrenching feeling in the pit of my stomach. In addition to the feeling, I’ve “known” there would be a death in the family on or around Thanksgiving. Catch is… I didn’t know who.
Logically I thought Don and I were going to lose one of our remaining grandparents – my Nana (she’s 91!) has had a series of mini strokes since this summer, my husband’s Mom-Mom is in rehab after breaking her back (osteoporosis), and his grandmother’s husband, Bill, is in a nursing home after a series of strokes. Each has a limited life span, so it made sense that it would likely be one of them. With this in mind, I had prepared myself and my husband mentally for a loss of one of them. I’d even mentioned to several friends, “I have a bad feeling. Both my grandfathers died on Thanksgiving, I think I may be losing another grandparent this holiday.”
As it turns out, I wasn’t wrong about the feeling. I was wrong, however, about the person. On Wednesday evening, my stepbrother committed suicide.
I wasn’t particularly close to him – we saw each other on the holidays and that was about it. But there has been a tremendous amount of guilt. I KNEW something was going to happen. And I’m usually able to use these feelings to help guide other people. Why couldn’t I use the feeling to help my own family?
The reason is… I probably wasn’t meant to. As I tell many clients, I’m not going to get anything that you don’t have the control to change. And I know, there was nothing anything could have done for my stepbrother. That being said, knowing there was going to be a loss… Don and I were prepared for the shock. Guess I won’t be turning in my “gift” just yet….
In the spring, a friend and student of mine received a Biogenesis treatment at Awakenings of East Aurora. I’d never heard of this modality, but she glowed from it. After her treatment, she insisted I receive a treatment and meet Judy, the individual providing them.
You see, I’m kind of an energy snob. Over the years, I have received many energy treatments and have learned that individuals who offer energy healings don’t always do it right. Many, rather than channeling the universal energy, share their own energy. That’s NOT how it’s supposed to be done and unfortunately for someone like myself who is VERY sensitive to energy this can be harmful. When an individual shares their energy, they are sharing the good and the bad which means that the energy from their “issues” (we all have them!!) are transferred to the individual they intend to heal… I have enough of my own problems, I don’t need anyone else’s! That being said, I am very particular about whom I allow to do energy work on me.
But, after being encouraged for several months, I agreed to try Biogenesis. I am glad I did! What I didn’t know is: Biogenesis treatment is all about the tools! Not that Judy isn’t a tremendous healer, but during a treatment her job is to activate the tools and let them do their work.
When the day of our respective appointments came (Kim booked for both of us, perhaps to make sure I didn’t chicken out), I hopped out of the car and intended to stay under the radar. I’m an awful self-promoter. I don’t want anyone to feel as though I’m selling myself or think I am full of myself or be self-conscious while working on me. So when Kim introduced me to Judy as THE Reverend Dawn Lynn, I was slightly embarrassed.
The three of us chatted for some time, both business and personal, with Kim (being the salesman she is) promoting me and Judy to the other. It was an eventful conversation, and at the end although, she was interested in my “Every Day” Mediumship classes, she felt she was pretty “booked in the mediumship department.” Everything happens in its time. So I didn’t push and left grateful for the experience.
Fast forward a couple of weeks…
I received an e-mail from Judy stating she was interested in offering Every Day mediumship at Awakenings! Within days of receiving the e-mail (we had to start quick… didn’t want Mercury Retrograde to interfere!), we’d spoken and agreed the classes would be a good fit!
The first class is today, November 7th. Almost 20 people have registered for this class!! Thank you Judy and Spirit!! I look forward to seeing how this relationship develops and am interested in seeing what else Spirit has in store. As I mentioned in my post about New World Gifts, in my strategic plan I have a goal related to working with establishments in Western New York. One by one, Spirit is paving the way to me accomplishing that goal… thank you Spirit for making it “easy!”
Due to Halloween and All Souls' Day, October and November due are always busy months. This year was no different. In the last week alone, in addition to my normal load of readings, I hosted three classes, conducted readings at New World Gifts and participated in the Evolving Essence Psychic Fair at the Hearthstone Manor.
So when a break in the flow of readings at the fair occurred late Sunday afternoon, I was grateful! I was beginning to feel “done” and the break gave me the opportunity to stretch, grab some water (after almost two dozen clients my mouth was dry!!) and muster up that final “wind” to push me through to the end of the show. It also gave my husband and I an opportunity to chat briefly and begin figuring out the ominous question, “what will we have for dinner?” As he and I are debated over food (a common argument in my household), a couple sat down in front of my booth. Saved by the bell!
Ready to go back into reading mode, I took a deep breath to prepare myself and then glanced over at the couple looking back at me. The man and the woman were giddy with excitement which was quickly transferred to me as I immediately recognized them! It is none other than the couple I (and my students) had met on our trip to Lily Dale!! (If you haven’t read that story… it’s a good one, click here!)
Each of us bounced out of our chairs and hugged. There was pure joy and relief in their eyes as they exclaimed, “We found YOU!”
Apparently, our meeting in Lily Dale several months ago had impacted both of them profoundly and over the past few months they had sought me. Unfortunately, knowing only my first name, when they googled … I was nowhere to be found.
They, however, did not give up hope! Hence when they heard about the psychic fair this weekend, they were hopeful they would be able to find me there. So Sunday afternoon, they made the trek to Buffalo (not a short one for them) in hopes of running into me… not only to express their gratitude and share their experiences, but they remembered these words: “Everyone has the ability to be a medium. They just have to want to, be shown how and practice!”
Those words stuck with them and they hoped to find me to discover how they could learn more. Needless to say… Their wish was granted! Apparently, upon walking into the Hearthstone Manor they immediately saw my sign on the information table. Success!! For upon opening the brochure there was my photo staring back at them.
As the three of us chatted, everyone in the room could probably sense the joy that emanated from each of us. It was wonderful to hear the confirmation they gave regarding the messages they received – not only from me, but also by my students. Each message was confirmed within two weeks (I never cease to be amazed by Spirit’s ability)!!
What really touched my heart, however, was their desire to learn more about Spirit. My goal in passing a message is never just about the message and the healing it brings. I always hope the message will inspire individuals to look deeper within themselves and recognize our interconnectedness with Spirit. With these two individuals, I think I’ve done that. Over the past few months they have also begun to notice all the signs THEY were receiving from Spirit! These signs and our “chance” meeting created a desire within them to connect with Spirit more.
They sat down for a reading, and again were amazed. But more importantly, they left with information on my upcoming classes. I am certain I will be seeing them again!!
Spirit speaks. I listen… well, most of the time. This next story is a time I listened.
At the end of May, a new spiritual store, New World Gifts, opened less than ten minutes from my home in the town of Williamsville. I’d seen it on Facebook, heard about it from my clients and passed by it many times on my way down Main Street. That being said, I’d never been in it.
But I’d been meaning to drop in and check it out. I was, after all, sending people there for crystals and smudge. The logical thing would be to know what they sold. But, I always seemed to be in a hurry or stopping by just after hours and figured, “I’d check it out eventually.”
Eventually came one afternoon in July. I’d had a very productive day – I’d had several clients and worked on upcoming blog posts. Due to the spiritual nature of the day, my guides were chirping away in my ear and they had become insistent that I go to New World Gifts, TODAY.
Being the stubborn girl I am, I resisted. I had stuff to do and was on a roll. I also had plans to meet some girlfriends for Happy Hour, and by no means was I going to miss that! But, after trying to ignore my guides’ persistence, I finished getting myself ready for my evening out. With about an hour to kill, I relented and said to my husband, “Let’s check out that new store on Main Street.”
So we did.
When we got there, I was extremely impressed. The shop, nestled in a plaza in the middle of town, was inviting and warm. While it is full of metaphysical and spiritual items, they are all understated and suit the clientele of the area. We checked out the candles, wind chimes and lawn ornaments, books and crystals – all the while I’m thinking, phew… I haven’t been steering folks wrong!
As we were browsing, the kind shop owner struck up conversation. I tend to be a little stand-offish, my husband is the talker – so as they had a lovely conversation about the crystals and the upcoming crystal classes that the shop would be offering, I stayed relatively quiet taking an inventory of everything the store had to offer.
After browsing, I selected a lawn ornament to purchase – a medium sized engraved rock that stated the Jewish Proverb – “What you don’t see with your eyes, don’t invent with your mouth”- a philosophy I preach to my students. While checking out, the kind shop owner (who I now know to be Martha) asks me, “What about you? What do you do?”
I still struggle with this question – Do I say I’m a medium? Or do I go with grant writer, strategic planner and project manager? What do I say? On this day, before I had a moment to ponder the question these words came out of my mouth: “I AM a medium.”
What came next shocked me even more. Martha responded, “Do you want to read here?”
I didn’t know what to say. I was caught completely off guard. I hadn’t gone to the store that day with the intention of reading there! But, what I have since come to realize and find out is that it was what both (Martha and I) had asked spirit for.
Long and the short of it, I am now reading out of New World Gifts on Friday afternoons. During our conversations, Martha revealed that the day before I walked into the store she had asked spirit to bring her readers that would fit her clientele. And the next day, in I walk. Additionally, I had written in my strategic plan several weeks earlier that I would build relationships with shops in the area and either read out of them or offer classes.
We asked, spirit provided. Sometimes it happens fast (less than 24 hours for Martha). Sometimes it takes a little longer (a few weeks for me). But when you state your intention, spirit will always provide. It’s something I have to remind myself of sometimes. This story helps me do that.
Rather than continuing the monologue of how I got to where I am, today I’m going to digress a bit and share a more recent tale.
A couple of weeks ago, Don (my husband), Kathy (a friend and teacher), and Kim (a friend and student) along with her husband and two year old son, decided to spend the day in Lily Dale. We all had different goals for the day: Kim wanted to introduce her husband to Lily Dale as he’d never been; her husband, a skeptic who tries his darnedest to support his wife on her spiritual path but struggles to align her beliefs with his own wanted to see what it was all about and perhaps get the sign he has apprehensively been asking to receive; Kathy will be teaching a class in Lily Dale in a couple of weeks and wanted to scope out the Lyceum building as this will be the first time she’s taught in there; I wanted to soak in the energy and just relax; and, Don never passes up an opportunity to go to Lily Dale – he likes to be reminded of the first time we met. So off we went, and we certainly lucked out! It was a beautiful, warm and sunny day!
Meeting up at just around noon, we planned to go to the healing service. Being a beautiful day and a weekend, Lily Dale was busy. Making our way towards the healing temple, we realized it was standing room only!! Rather than wait with a tired two-year-old to even get in to the temple and then our turn for healing, we decided to walk around and grab a bite to eat, including Cup of Joe’s famous Lavender Cookies!! My favorite!!
After lunch, we made our way to the 1:30pm service at Inspiration Stump. While walking down the path to Inspiration Stump, I informed my crew (and Spirit) that I would not be volunteering to serve that day. My reasoning, “I’m not working today. Today it’s all about me. It’s Sunday and after all, even GOD rested on Sunday.” Kim’s husband chuckled and remarked, “Have you told THEM that.”
Albeit a skeptic, he knows Spirit’s antics all too well. And although I had informed Spirit, that didn’t mean that Spirit would actually listen. And sure enough, they didn’t. During the service, there were four pesky spirits that would just not let up. One medium after another got up and as each one connected with different visitors, the ones that could tell I was a medium, got LOUDER. So loud in fact, Don turned to me and said, “Dawn, you either need to volunteer to work or tell them to go away. They are bothering ME now.”
And so I did. In my best teacher/mommy voice, I told them to stop. And all but one did.
She would not, despite my urging, go away. This middle-aged woman was relentless and desperately wanted to talk to a woman in a purple on the other side of the glade. As the service came to a close, I considered going up to the woman in purple to let her know her mother was here and pass whatever message she had. This is against Lily Dale rules and a big no-no as I am not a registered medium. But, I was willing to take the risk because I really wanted to get this woman to go away!! She was loud, pushy and a little obnoxious. But alas… when I looked for the woman in purple she disappeared in the sea of people.
Walking out of the forest, we discussed the service. I mentioned the noisy woman and her daughter in purple, surprised that a message had not been passed. At which point the woman, who was still walking with me said, “Find her. I want to talk to Vivie!” My jaw dropped, I realized at that moment I knew exactly who the message was for. This woman was there for Vivie, a woman my best friend had worked and I haven’t seen since my friend’s wedding five years ago!! Was it really possible that she could be in Lily Dale?
I pondered this as we walked. During our wandering, we passed the woman I knew the message was for. Unfortunately, she had her head in her phone and I couldn’t tell whether it really was Vivie, the woman I knew or not. I kept walking, despite the Spirit’s frustration. I did not want to approach a stranger with a message – I was no longer at Inspiration Stump and as such didn’t have the conviction to go against Lily Dale Rules. Approaching someone with a message without permission is also against my personal code of conduct. It’s like eavesdropping!! And anyone who knows me knows, it’s a big no-no!
So we continued on with our day, going to the labyrinth, the medicine wheel, the fairy trail and the museum. As it began to get close to dinner, we decided to part ways with our friends and head home. As we began our way to the car, the woman again started screaming in my ear. At which point I looked up and who was walking towards me, it was VIVIE!!
As we made our way towards each other, I called out “Vivie?” She approached, squinting at first, and responded, “Oh my goodness, Dawn IT IS YOU! It’s so good to see you. I’ve had this feeling that you would be here today and that I’d run into you.”
We spoke for a few minutes, chit chatting and catching up. At which point I let her know her mother was with her. Vivie responded that she knew and that she had a wonderful reading with a registered medium that brought her mom through loud and clear. And finally, the mother brought her daughter and I together, which was part of her plan. We chuckled and parted our ways. Her mother finally went with her and was gone.
I had gone to Lily Dale that day to have a peaceful, relaxing, “work-free” day. At first, I was a little annoyed that Spirit did not respect my wishes. But, when they revealed their message, I realized I got something so much more.
That day in Lily Dale, Spirit reminded me how we are all interconnected. There are no coincidences. That day I didn’t have a message for Vivie, SHE had a message for ME. Her knowing that I would be there demonstrated to me our interconnectedness and how messages resonate in each and every one of us. You don’t have to be a medium to talk with Spirit, all you have to be is open and willing to listen. Which Vivie was, I for a long time that day was not. But, by listening with your heart to Spirit, others and ourselves we gain strength and our wisdom. We also feed our soul. Thank you, Spirit, for reminding me of this valuable lesson.
Dawn Lynn is an EveryDay medium. She lives and breathes via her intuition, which as a fourth generation intuitive from a family of Spiritualists came easily. Her abilities became apparent in early childhood and were cultured by a supportive family. Through her Blogs and Vlogs, she wants to help you become the EveryDay medium too.