Last month, Buffalo Underground hosted a class during which I spoke about the importance of psychic protection. During this conversation, I noted that it is important to not only be aware of how the obviously negative people in your life impact you, but also those people you care about and you see as positive influences in your life.
You see, those people you care about can affect your energy WITHOUT YOU KNOWING IT. Why? Because unlike the stranger or acquaintance who just bumps into your energy – sort of like a fender bender or in some instance more devastating crash – family and friends are inside your world, they are the spark plug or muffler without which you won’t run well, if at all. These connections are called psychic cords or hooks. They explain why a mother instinctively knows when her child becomes hurt or when a friend “coincidently” calls you in the moment you were thinking about them. Your energies are intertwined.
This is a good thing… AND a bad thing.
Having just spoken about the need for protection even from those we love, it was ironic that a situation occurred that blatantly demonstrated the existence of psychic hooks between friends.
It starts innocently. I had happened on this article about emotional affairs. As we have been working to improve our relationship, I found the content interesting and forwarded it on to my husband. Not being one for words (and forgetting that he can’t read my mind), I omitted an explanation as to why I was sending the article. Although I hate to admit it, he appropriately became a little concerned I was accusing him of affairs. The article, which I had though was just good food for thought, ended in a much bigger and more heated discussion than I intended.
Thinking I was accusing him, he asked about our friends. Without thinking (should have used the filter!) I rattled off the names of some mutual friends that I had thought at times the relationship may have crossed the line or there was potential for it to. Seeing him become red, I thought if I explained my rational further he might see where I was coming from and understand. I should have kept my mouth shut. As soon as I started discussing one friend in particular, we both dug our heals in and the debate escalated.
Fortunately… at least in my opinion… I was saved by the bell. The dinging bell of my husband’s phone that is. His attention was immediately diverted from me to the phone. But then I felt and saw it, a frustration washed over him.
Why frustration? Because he suddenly felt defeated. The text was from none other than the friend we were just talking about!!!
And why defeated? For the same reason I felt validated and elated knowing I had just won the heated debate. Her text, in the exact moment we were discussing her relationship with him mind you, demonstrated their psychic connection. As they say, her ears must have been ringing. Because of their connection, on some level she could feel the current status of their relationship from which they both pull emotional support, was in jeopardy. This was further evidenced by the fact that she did not just text once, but more than five times in just as many minutes!!! And with each text, she became more insistent that he contact her as soon as possible.
Stubbornly he said… well I guess I will not be responding to her tonight. Even though my husband wanted to argue the point, he couldn’t. The point was made, and it was clear that there was an unhealthy connection.
Does that mean he has to cut her out of his life and never speak to her again? Not at all! She is a good friend and is someone he has a lot of fun with. What it meant was he needed to identify what connection wasn’t serving him physically, emotionally and spiritually and remove that.
And he did. On the full moon he did a fire ceremony smudging himself with sage and copal releasing those connections. Seems to have done the trick! Since then we’ve talked about the relationship and the phone hasn’t gone off!
Smudge worked to psychically protect my husband from his friend. How do you psychically protect yourself from the people you love?
While visiting with a friend recently, an interesting conversation ensued after she asked, “Dawn, do kids bring in <spiritual> energy?”
You might be asking, where did this question come from? Here’s her story…
When her eldest, who is just a little over two, was born she and her husband noticed odd occurrences around the house that indicated to them someone or something was around. After a while, she attributed these occurrences to her uncle. Upon doing so, the occurrences slowed and she found comfort in this.
Being spiritual, she expected upon the birth of twins recently that she would have sporadic visits similar to what occurred after her eldest was born. She was prepared for that. What actually happened was not what was expected.
With the twins, not only were the signs more defined – for example musical toys would go off for no reason and orbs were captured on video – these happenings occurred ALL THE TIME. Her husband said it best when he said, “There is no interpreting or intuiting these things, they are just fact.”
After recognizing the occurrences were harmless, she and her husband accepted them as just the way it is.
What was harder to accept was what was happening to her. While pregnant, her intuition flourished. She felt and sensed more than she ever had before. After the boys were born, things began to change and she found that SHE was having sensory stimulation others weren’t. The smell of stale smoke and bad cologne would permeate the house. Despite searching the home for the source, she could find nothing. She also started hearing voices, like a muffled radio. Again she searched the house, but she couldn’t find the sounds coming from anywhere. There were also times she would swear she heard the boys, but upon checking the monitor they were sound asleep… for a few minutes at least, because without a doubt, within minutes of checking on them – someone was up.
These occurrences disturbed her. She thought she might be going a crazy or something was physically wrong. Worried, she discussed it with her neurologist who diagnosed her with having incomplete seizures and put her on a medication.
The medication dulled the experiences… but they continued. And, they expanded. Others began to experience them as well.
Her husband began smelling the smoke. As did her sister and her significant other while they stayed at the house while the family was away. It was at this point she began questioning, what’s really going on.
Hence her question to me.
And getting back to it, YES – babies welcome spiritual energies into the home. Most new parents can recount a time during their child’s first year when something inexplicable happened (check out this blog to see my mom’s experience). Some parents embrace it and take comfort in the knowledge that a loved one is around. Others dismiss it as lack of sleep and a wild imagination. Either way, almost every new parent has an experience.
In my friend’s case, her experience has been multiplied as there are two babies (three really). Hence the profound physical occurrences and it seeping over to her and her husband.
The bleeding into her and her husband’s experience is because they are innately intuitive. So even before the boys, they were susceptible to paranormal activity (which both admit to having experienced). Then you add her pregnancy, which further connects a woman to the other side. No wonder so much is going on in their home.
Fortunately, nurtured by the love of their parents, this energy is only good and protective. The more they cultivate this energy, the stronger it becomes.
I often tell my clients during a reading you rarely get shocking new information. Rather, the information that is discussed by the psychic or medium is likely to confirm what you already know. More importantly, it can be used to affirm you are moving towards your life’s purpose.
You might be thinking, why would I want to get a reading then? Isn’t a reader supposed to bring me great insight? How can being told what I already know be helpful?
In fact, it can be extremely helpful. Think about it. When a reader tells you about something that is going on in your life without having any prior knowledge AND then offers advice on the situation, even if it is EXACTLY the same as the advice your friends or family might give you, you know it is unbiased. A reader doesn’t know all the history like your friends and family do. They don’t have opinions about the parties involved. Additionally, because readers get clients based on how accurate they are, you can be damn sure the reader is motivated to provide you with good information and not just tell you what you want to hear.
I live by this. I share this thought with many. It is amazing, however, when the tables are turned and I am no longer the giver of information, but the receiver.
This week while my husband and I were meeting with our counselor, Bret, he started talking about a topic that resonated greatly with me. He was speaking about life scripts, or unconscious beliefs we hold due to perceptions and past history. As he was talking about the importance of being aware of them and releasing them – I perhaps inappropriately so, had to chuckle.
Why? Because while I was hoping for awe inspiring insight followed by shiny, sparkly tools that could instantaneously solve all my husband and my issues. Instead what I got was him basically telling me I should “center.”
Why did I find that funny? Centering isn’t a shiny new skill I’ve never heard of. Nor is it a new perspective that inspires an epiphany. Nope… it’s a mediumship development basic I teach to all my students.
Not only that. I KNOW how important centering is. At the beginning of each centering class, I tell my students that centering is the MOST important and the MOST overlooked basic. Additionally, I inform them that it is the one basic a person will never master. Instead, one has to work every day to be aware of one’s “pain bodies.” More importantly, one has to recognize these beliefs and cellular memories trigger the ego to respond (rarely in a positive manner). By learning to center, an individual becomes aware of those responses and by working to ignore them can be more purely led by Spirit.
Hearing my counselor remind me of this made me smile because it made me realize I wasn’t as far off my life path as I thought I was. Rather, I am already equipped with the wisdom and skills I need to walk my path. I just needed to be reminded of that. And like my clients, I needed an unbiased, third party to be the source of that message.
It also reminded me that I am human (sucks sometimes). And like my students, I have not mastered this skill. I am still learning. It was a good reminder.
So next time a reader affirms your own thoughts and feelings, be grateful for it demonstrates you are on the right path. And, if you are told something completely out of left field… keep it in mind, but don’t let it upset you. There may have been something lost in translation.
Dawn Lynn is an EveryDay medium. She lives and breathes via her intuition, which as a fourth generation intuitive from a family of Spiritualists came easily. Her abilities became apparent in early childhood and were cultured by a supportive family. Through her Blogs and Vlogs, she wants to help you become the EveryDay medium too.