I’m writing this blog as I sit in my temporary office space at Santosha. If you have watched this video, you know that I am here because my home office is currently being remodeled. From that video, you may also know that Santosha is located in the same space that had once been my midwife’s office.
It is interesting sitting here. The year I was pregnant, I spent A LOT of time in this office. For those who have been pregnant, you know there are a lot of appointments with the provider. Once a month, then every other week, and the last month once a week… which after my due date was every couple of days. During each of those visits, my husband and I spent an hour conversing with our midwife – yes a WHOLE hour, the beauty of my provider’s model of care – while she alleviated any fears and checked the progress of the little one. But, now while I observe the space, it feels odd… not bad, just different.
It isn’t because the physical space has changed all that much. A wall has been put up to create an office where my midwife’s desk had once been. That’s about the only change. In fact, I think the colors are the same! The energy however, is much different.
I attribute this to both Khristeena Kingsley (my midwife) and Angela Hewett-Abt along with Don Scott (the proprietors of Santosha). Each of them have put their hearts and souls into this place to ensure the energy of the space meets their needs and expectations. And it shows.
Recognizing that got me thinking about my own office space. It is a blank canvas for which I can create any energy I desire. Fortunately, there is already a lot of good juju in the space. I have been doing readings out of it for seven years after all. But with the renovation there is time for rejuvenation.
The first comes with color. The one painted wall had been green. And while color doesn’t need to change to create new energy, as you know I thought my new space called for a new color and you guys got to choose! You spoke, I’m listening. I will be doing an accent wall in Rare Wine, a deep plum, and Grey Screen will cover the remaining walls. Plum is a wonderful color as it aligns with the third eye and crown chakra which will facilitate intuition. Great color for the space.
Before I (or rather my contractor, PDQ gets to painting), I will write my intentions and hopes for the space on the walls. Terms like serenity, healing and intuition will be scrawled. By doing this, I am physically setting the intention. It’s a little thing, but it is amazing what it does.
Once the room is completed, I will focus my attention to the flow of energy. When the furniture goes in, I will make sure neither I nor my client’s back will be facing the door.
I’ll also pay attention to the décor. Crystals will be placed, subtly as I’m not a crystal junkie – my husband takes that title. I’ll make sure my fairy house is placed to the faeries liking. And any other accents I feel will be sprinkled throughout. I’m thinking I might be doing a run to Pier One for some throw pillows.
Finally, the space won’t be ready to go until I bless it. I will go through and smudge, because smudging is not just about removing negative energy it is also about bringing in the positive.
Come to think of it, I could christen it by smashing a bottle of champagne like they do with a boat. Naw, that’s a waste of a good drink instead I think I might just pop a cork.
Have you made your space your own? If so, how?
When I started writing, the book I intended on penning looked NOTHING like the book it has become. At the time, I intended on writing about the basics of mediumship – grounding, protecting, centering and listening.
Why did I think I was going to write about the basics? There were several reasons which included:
But, alas, that book was not meant to be… this time at least. And, don’t worry… I didn’t scrap the copy. Rather, that material was put in a parking lot for another book. In fact, even upon the last review of this book two whole chapters got cut and pushed into a future book!
So why did I change the premise of the first book?
Well the premise of the book never actually changed. When I set out to write the book it was with the objective of writing to engage individuals who don’t think they are mediums. I wanted to reach the people who are “spiritual but not religious” and the people searching for something and aren’t sure to what or where to go. More importantly, I want to normalize mediumship by demonstrating EVERYONE is a medium. Unfortunately, I quickly realized this is something the basics would not do. Why? It’s simple. While I believe everyone is a medium. Yes – You and You and You and You – not everyone believes they are.
Realizing this, I was stumped. How do I do that? Fortunately, my days in health care consumer engagement flashed before my eyes. As I reflected upon that work, I recalled that consumers could be divided into four categories: Phase One, the deer in the headlight who knew nothing about the topic and needed to be made aware; Phase Two, the individual who was aware but who lacked education; Phase Three, the folks who are engaged and want to take action, but just need a little assistance as they modify and adopt new behaviors; and, Phase Four, the individuals who are already doing it but might need a little assistance in maintaining their way of life. Upon remembering this, I smiled as I noted that everything we do in life prepares us for something. I also, I realized the book about basics would engage individuals in stages three and four. Not my target audience.
So, before I could write a book about developing that intuition, even if it was a book about the basics, I needed to first write a book for the people still searching to figure it out. But what would engage people in stage one and two? That’s when I realized I would need to describe not only why one would want to use their intuition, but more importantly how it works. By describing how it works, I’m able to demonstrate why mediumship is not reserved for the special few but is something that is within us all.
I would have been remiss, however, to leave this information without simple things to be aware of to enhance their intuition and trust it.
And with that, One was born. Had I wrote the basics book first, those with an aversion to mediumship would have dismissed it and perhaps other books. One opens the door for them.
“You are psychic, you should know…” is a joke many of my clients make. Most of the time, I chuckle and don’t take any offense. My clients aren’t serious. They are making the joke to try and shake off their nerves. Every once in a while, however, someone is sarcastic and snarky while saying it. When they are, I inform them that I don’t play that game which gives the sitter the opportunity to bow out if they don’t want the reading (people are dragged to readings by loved ones!) but more often it nips the attitude in the bud.
But, because I do get that question, I thought in today’s Blog I would talk about being psychic.
When one is psychic, there is the misconception that s/he knows everything. Not only does a psychic NOT know everything, but they also don’t WANT to know everything. Check out this video for more on that topic.
Because a psychic doesn’t know everything, you may find that during a reading they ask you questions. For the skeptic, this is a red flag. Again, if they are psychic, shouldn’t they know?
While I can’t answer why every reader asks questions during a reading, I can tell you why I may ask a question during a reading.
At the beginning of my reading after my spiel, I always ask: Do you have any questions?
This is not me asking, Why are you here? Although some do interpret it that way. In fact, I would rather NOT know why you are there. I would rather NOT know your life story. The less I know, the more authentic the reading will be and you are less likely to think I am just feeding you back what you have already told me.
What I am asking when I ask "Do you have any questions?" is do you understand my process.
And just because I don’t want to know a lot of information, doesn’t mean I don’t ask any questions.
So what type of question do I ask? My most common question is: You have or are X, correct? For example, “you are married, correct?” Or “your father is in Spirit, correct?”
You might think that these questions are meant to dig out personal information. It’s not. In fact, these questions, if asked, are inserted only after I have given you a great deal of information about a situation or person. And the reason I ask the question is this… I’m fairly certain I already know the answer. That’s why it is a statement phrased as a question. BUT, if I’m wrong and am misinterpreting the information, I will confuse the sitter.
For example, say I’m sitting with a person and I receive information about a relationship and that information leads me to believe the person is married. I might ask that person if they are in fact married. If they are, I’m confirming the information and can move on. If they are not, I can describe the person I intuit is their partner more fully. The person I end up describing may be a significant other they have been with for years. Depending on the relationship, that person may even be a friend or sibling they live with. If I had called either of these people spouse, the sitter may have been confused or dismissed the information. When they say no and I describe the person more fully, they then may realize it is another person.
By asking the question, it gives me the opportunity to clarify. It doesn’t mean I don’t know. It just means the information I am interpreting may need more explanation. Remember, interpreting the signs and feelings can sometimes be hard.
So, I ask. But notice how I ask. I specifically ask a yes/no question. The reason it isn’t open-ended? I don’t want you to supply me with too much information. I simply want to make sure I am on the right track and you understand. Why would I need to do this? You’d be surprised how many people smile, nod and like a sponge soak in the information but are completely lost. If they are completely lost and walk away from the reading thinking I’m off my rocker, I’m not doing my job.
Those are the questions I ask. There are a few questions I don’t ask, but depending on who is reading you, are completely valid.
Readers ask questions because they want you, the sitter, to get the best reading possible. They each also have unique methodologies and skill sets. In fact, many readers have developed skills in many of the intuitive arts from astrology, mediumship, numerology, palm reading, runes, psychic and tarot. Having all these skills, it is not uncommon for them to pull upon all the tools in their toolkit to give you a reading. For a better idea of what to expect, research the tools the reader uses, it may help you understand why they are asking the question.
One place the muses like to talk to me is in the shower.
If you watched this video, you know that the shower is a great place to receive messages. Not only is it one of the few times during the day when I have time for ME and MY thoughts, but water is also a great conductor of spiritual energies.
Throughout my life, the conviction to move forward with important or creative decisions have always come to me while in the shower. For example, it was in the shower when I knew that my husband and I would find the house of our dreams. After the shower, I hopped online to search the MLS listings. Sure enough, there was our house. It was also in the shower when I had the inspiration for Where Is Dawn Lynn? The stroke of genius that occurred in those situations happen about once a month.
That is until about two months ago. Since then, the muses have been working overtime. Every Single Time I hit the shower, my to-do list gets longer. In fact, my husband has told me he likes my stink and perhaps I should go longer between showers… I think he just doesn’t want HIS to-do list to get longer.
Wondering what some of these inspirations have been? Here are a few examples:
100 Videos in 100 Days
My husband had ordered me the book, Known by Mark Schaefer, for either my birthday or Valentine’s Day. I was in the midst of reading that. While in the shower I realized I needed more consistency in my YouTube presence and thought, huh? 100 videos in 100 days. I can do that! Told my husband the day it started… might be one of the reasons he would prefer I don’t shower, it tripled his work load.
The Book Launch
Shortly after starting the 100 videos in 100 days, I was inspired to launch One: Unleashing the Energy that Connects Us All. The book itself wasn’t a new concept. I’d been working on it for about a year. But, the moment the inspiration struck I had no plan on when to release it. But, I was inspired to use the momentum of the 100 days for the book. Also, what better way to mark the end of the 100 days than with a party?
Handbook and Meditation CD
Once I was committed to the book launch, that little voice spoke again. This time it nudged me to create a supplemental handbook and meditation cd. Both make a lot of sense. In fact, my one reviewer recommended that the exercises be highlighted in the back of the book. And, I had been thinking about recording meditations in the past. Hadn’t planned on it for the book… but it makes sense. I’ve got the content. It will be a little... okay, a lot more work. But, I’m doing it.
Not sure I’m going to put this one into action or not, but because the premise of the book as the tag-ling suggests is energetic connections, I was hit with the idea of placing a couple books in locations for geocachers to find. This would be fun. Get the book in the hands of people who might not otherwise get the book. Downside? I have to hike to where the book is going to be placed. Would probably make a great Youtube video. Funny to watch. I’m not a great hiker and would probably fall a lot.
So, this one may be a little more of a day dream than an inspiration. I’d love to have Oprah read, endorse my book and have me on Super Soul Sunday. I had the vision of this happening after I sent her a lovely basket with the book, cd, goodies for while reading it and a One pendent, similar to the one my husband was inspired to make and I’m not supposed to know about. I see her wearing it as I sit on her couch. Might this happen? Who knows!
You may have noticed the them, all the inspirations I’ve had recently have been around One. I’m taking this to mean the universe is working overtime to help me out with the book launch. And trust me, I’ll take any help I can get. Which means, now through June 30th which is the day after the book launch party at the Tewksbury Lodge, I think I might end up taking a lot of showers.
With Mother’s Day this coming weekend, I have reflected on the many ways I am grateful for my mom.
Like many mothers, she was loving and supportive. I know she sacrificed for me and my brother many times. There were times she worked two jobs. Times where she would work an overnight and, despite lack of sleep, be up for us the next day. It wasn’t always easy.
Not only did she sacrifice, she was always there. As a child, she was attended each and every extracurricular activity I participated in. She was there for every award ceremony, band concert and competition. While in college, she would send me care packages a few times a month and come down to visit regularly. Then after the car accident, she was my advocate ensuring I got the best health care possible. I accredit her persistence and unacceptable of “wait as see” as part of the reason I was able to recover beyond the doctors’ expectations.
I always knew she loved me. More importantly, I knew my parents supported all my gifts and talents.
As children, my brother and I had one responsibility: Education. My parents wanted us to do well in school and learn as much as we possibly could. We could learn through travel or clubs, reading or writing, volunteer work or jobs. It didn’t matter, as long as we were learning. My mom never encouraged or pushed me to choose one activity over another. Once I decided, she was behind it one hundred percent. She did her best to make the dream a reality.
That was the case when I expressed an interest in honing my intuitive gifts. At first, she responded with a big smile. Afterwards she expressed, from the time she heard the woman in my room, she knew intuition would be in my life one way or another.
To help me, she took me to classes. In fact, she attended many classes with me! Together, we discovered more about our spirit guides, how to read auras and about the different forms of intuition. But I wanted more. And when I found the Northeast Holistic Center for Healing and Psychic Development, my mother (and aunt) did not hesitate to facilitate the education. Every other week, they would make the forty-minute trek (back and forth) to the center so I could attend classes.
When I started doing this professionally, she assisted me. And she has continued to do so. With an office in East Aurora, she watches Baby Girl once a week to lessen the burden on us. And, upon publishing my book, she was one of the first people to pre-order it. She didn’t have to. I would have given her a copy… but she wanted to purchase it.
Every day, she demonstrates support.
One could say, that’s what moms do. And each mom, in their own way does. But, I like to think my mom is special and I’m grateful to have her support. Without her support, and her intuitive genes, I may not be where I am today.
Happy Mother’s Day Mom! And, to all the other moms out there.
When the time came to say good-bye to Daphne, my first baby, the universe aligned to ensure her brother Seamus would not be alone.
Seamus was our special needs dog. We adopted him in 2011 from Buffalo Pug and Small Breed Rescue. When he joined our family, he was about six years old. Prior to that, he lived his life at a puppy mill. From his demeanor and posture, our vet theorized that he was the stud and spent very little time outside of a small cage.
Being a mill dog and accustomed to being part of the pack, Seamus took to Daphne right away. She was the alpha dog and eased his transition into our home. Without her, even though from the moment he met me he was attached, I don’t know if our home would have become his. It took him a good year and a half to become comfortable enough to not feel the need to keep himself awake.
Knowing this, we worried how Seamus would handle the loss of Daphne. Especially since I was pregnant and a baby would be joining our family in a mere six months.
To make things easier on Seamus, we knew we needed to get another dog. Which, to be honest, was the last thing either my husband or I wanted to add to our pile while I was pregnant, but we reasoned it was the best thing for Seamus.
At the time, a puppy was out of the question. Neither my husband nor I (or Seamus) had the time or patience to house train a puppy or deal with a puppy’s energy. Plus, there are so many dogs out there that need a home, we decided to adopt. To find a dog to fit our family, I went on the Buffalo Pug and Small Breed Rescue website. Unfortunately, we knew we were also not in a position to manage another high-needs dog like Seamus and none of the dogs available for adoption at the time seemed to be a good fit. So upon the recommendation of our vet, I checked out Joyful Rescues, another non-profit animal rescue. And there was Rodney.
From the description, Rodney appeared to be a perfect fit. He was a pug, our breed of choice. He was ten years old, the same age as Seamus. And, he had come from a family with children. According to the website, the only reason he had been surrendered was because his previous family had gone through a divorce and could no longer provide for him. Not only that, he had JUST been surrendered and his profile posted that day.
I felt the universe was aligning. And the serendipities continued. When I called the rescue, I spoke to the founder who, having also recently lost her pet, was eager to make this match work. She encouraged me to fill out the application and we arranged to meet Rodney two days later. If we liked him, at that point we could take him home.
And we did. Rodney fit right in. So much so, that while adopting him people who walked by thought he was already part of our family. They thought Seamus was the one being adopted… I did mention he was our “special” guy.
A few days after adopting Rodney, we said good-bye to Daphne. Then a few months later, we welcomed our Baby Girl.
That was our family. The five of us. For several years.
Until this past fall, when we had to say good-bye to Seamus.
Rodney, unfortunately, was not been the same. A sadness came over him. Which we were warned of and we tried to manage by giving him extra love. We even started bringing him to my aunt’s on the days she watched Baby Girl so he wouldn’t have long days to himself. This seemed to help.
But, the inflammatory bowel disease, a chronic disease he has had since we got him, continued to worsen. Since his bowel movements became more and more unpredictable, we found it harder to bring him to my aunt’s and we could no longer allow him to sleep in bed with us.
And, he continued to steadily decline. He would refuse meals and treats, which for pugs is unheard of. He would stay in his bed in the kitchen instead of snuggling. He was having more bad days than good.
Watching his behavior, my husband and I saw the writing on the wall. We knew the inevitable was coming. He was nearly fourteen after-all. So we asked each other and ourselves, “Is he in pain?” “What is his quality of life?” “How will we know it is time?”
I shouldn’t have worried so much about these things. One day last week, I woke up to another mess in the kitchen. And while it wasn’t the worst we had seen, upon hearing Rodney’s stomach gurgle, I had the conviction that it was time. While he didn’t tell me, like Daphne did, I just knew.
The important things in life, you know. You don’t have to mull over them. That certainty sets in.
And that was the case with this situation. it was time. He went peacefully. We will miss him. At least we know Seamus was there waiting.
Dawn Lynn is an EveryDay medium. She lives and breathes via her intuition, which as a fourth generation intuitive from a family of Spiritualists came easily. Her abilities became apparent in early childhood and were cultured by a supportive family. Through her Blogs and Vlogs, she wants to help you become the EveryDay medium too.