It’s hard to believe, but it has been more than a year and a half since Spirit first brought me to Awakenings in East Aurora (if you haven’t had a chance to read that Blog, you should!). I consider myself fortunate to be part of this marvelous center. The wonderful people who teach and attend sessions there have truly become family. AND, it’s situated right in the heart of East Aurora. Can’t get any better than that!
Never been to East Aurora? You are missing out! The Village of East Aurora has always held a special place in my heart. Perhaps it is due to the draw of Vidler’s and the other quaint shops on Main Street; or maybe the fond memories of the Toy Fest parade; or, it could be that my favorite doctor, an optometrist by the name of Dr. O’Connor, has his office there. Whatever the reason, I have always loved East Aurora and had envisioned myself with a home there.
Unfortunately, due to my visual impairment which prohibits me from driving, while my husband and I were house hunting a few years ago, it quickly became apparent that despite our mutual love for East Aurora, it was not a practical choice. Which is okay because we found a cozy place in an idyllic neighborhood in Snyder. With the fire house across the street, a community center and park at the end of the block, and several yummy restaurants within walking distance, I wouldn’t want to be anywhere else!
Despite that, sometimes while driving through East Aurora I daydream and think, “It would be so nice to have a home here.”
That daydream is coming true! Those of you who have been keeping up with me via Facebook and Twitter know that as of May 1st, I will have that “home” in East Aurora! Awakenings has outgrown its space at the Roycroft and is MOVING. Their new location is at 500 Buffalo Road, right across the street from Knox Farm. It is a lovely space, with five offices and two classrooms that will be known as WillowLight. Judy has envisioned the space as a community for spiritually minded professionals. Guess who she envisioned as one of those practitioners? That’s right, this girl!
And guess what this girl had in her strategic plan this year? That’s right – having an office! Or to put it more appropriately, a space outside of the home where my husband and I can to do work and see clients. We have found since Baby Girl was born, we have become incredibly inefficient because our work hours are constantly being interrupted by parenting and household duties. In order to keep up with our own businesses, we decided that we needed someplace to “go.”
Don and I had just started the conversation about where the office would be located, what our budget would be, etc. when Judy from Awakenings approached us about the community she was hoping to create. If we had any doubts that this may be the path we were destined for, when she presented the concept you would have sworn she was a fly on the wall during our personal conversations. The language she used was identical to the verbiage Don and I had been using. She mentioned that she thought this could be our “southtowns” location (Don and I planned on having a north and south location to meet our clients needs!) AND the price she quoted was the exact number we thought we could manage without having to stretch ourselves. As an added bonus, this new office is only ten minutes from all our babysitters!
It never ceases to amaze me how when something is meant to be, the details fall into place. Thank you Spirit for giving us the signs and making it easy!
Now all I have to do is figure out décor !
Before the birth of Baby Girl, my mom friends gushed over the indescribable bond that exists between a mother and her child. I was told, “Just wait! It’s such an aah-mazing feeling.”
The concept of the bond made complete and logical sense to me. The momma and baby are physically connected through the umbilical cord for over nine months! This would obviously result in a psychic connection and psychic connections (unless severed) continue throughout a lifetime. The psychic connection would be what most describe as a “mother’s instinct.”
While pregnant, as talked about in the blog post Ordinary, I began to feel that bond. I was completely unprepared, however, for the feeling my fellow moms described. It’s a tug in the gut when Baby Girl is hungry, tired, unhappy, or wet AND an immense joy when she’s happy, tickled or excited. It boggles my mind that I actually FEEL what she feels. I didn’t expect that.
Of course, it is probably advantageous to the child that a mom feels these things. For example, I know when I feel that she’s wet, I jump. Hungry? She doesn’t have to cry, before I stop everything and pull out the boob. Or then there are the times I hear her bopping to the beat of Taylor Swift’s “Shake it Off” (over and over and over) in her head, I pop the song on the radio for her which ALWAYS results in a huge smile.
This bond is awesome right now, but I do fret the day she is five and she decides she hates me because I won’t give her mango (her favorite food, which she asks for btw). Or, when she’s sixteen and her heart is broken for the first time. Or, when she (if she chooses) to have a baby of her own. Oh goodness, I love her but I hope I don’t feel that one! Maybe I’ll put a block on that one.
Until then, I will continue to enjoy our extra special connection. And use that bond to MY advantage as well. For this tired momma, it’s helpful to know when she wants her purple chew toy rather than her teddy bear… cuts down on the fussing. And with a baby, that’s ALWAYS a good thing!
I love my husband. He is a wonderfully supportive and intuitive man. And I feel very blessed that we are both able to use our sixth, spidey sense to communicate with one another. As a result of this, a question we often end up asking each other is, “Are you reading my mind? Or am I reading yours?”
Sometimes it’s clear. A few nights ago, Don dropped me off at Branches of Light so I could get the space ready for class. While I was setting up, he planned to go across the street to pick up a couple of drinks for the evening. As I closed the car door, I thought about the yummy cut-out cookies this grocery store made. Wanting a pair of these cookies, I decided it would be a GREAT time to test out our telepathic skills. Before heading to the door, I paused and consciously thought, “Don…I’m sending you this message. Your wife will love you forever if you get her cookies.” Well, he got the message. When he returned to Branches, with a big grin on his face he handed me a bakery bag filled with cookies. With an equally big grin I simply responded, “You got my message.”
At that time, he was clearly in tune with me. Other times, it’s a little less clear. For example, a few weeks ago while Don was at a client’s site assisting them with an IT problem, I snapped a picture of baby girl to text to him. Within moments of the text being sent, he replied “I was just thinking about and missing my girls.” Did he feel us thinking about him or did we feel him thinking about us? It’s unclear. And it really doesn’t matter. What is obvious is that there is an unspoken communication between us.
This closeness is special and unique. It brings us closer. Unfortunately, as with any good thing it also has its pitfalls. There are times we assume we know what the other is thinking or wants, but because of our personal filters we get it wrong. And that’s when arguments occur…
Recently it’s been over house projects. Spring is upon us, and like any home owner there are a number of projects we want (in some instances need) to get done. On our list we have replacing the sidewalk (the winter was brutal!), re-doing our driveway, re-doing the floors on our first floor, as well as many others. In my mind, I’ve realized that not everything is possible this year but we have to get the sidewalks done. It’s a safety hazard afterall! Unfortunately, this can be costly. Having had this conversation in my head, and assuming Don heard the conversation in my head I thought it was decided. Well, I was wrong. Fortunately, we worked it out… but we had to TALK it out. Something I sometimes forget.
Long and the short of it, although we are blessed to be able to communicate via another avenue… it’s important that we remember it’s good to do it the old fashioned way as well. Talking things out is always the best way to go.
Mental illness, addiction and spirituality go hand in hand, probably more than anyone would like to acknowledge. One has to wonder, are the voices the person with a diagnosis of schizophrenia is hearing in their head a symptom of mental illness or is it a sign that they are a talented medium who hasn’t learned how to process the information yet. It’s my belief that in many cases it is probably a combination of both. Similarly when we think about addiction, are individuals seeking drugs to go on that “trip” to commune with Spirit or are they drinking and doing drugs to AVOID Spirit and the pain empathy brings? Again, it could be both.
In the past, especially in college, I fell into some of these patterns. I was one to drink a little too much (it was college afterall). Never did drugs though. Never had a desire. Never wanted to lose myself. Perhaps it’s because I’m a control freak. But alcohol… it was great. It deadened the mind and shut Spirit up. Well that’s not entirely true, Spirit continues to talk (ask my friends, they’ll tell you it’s when they get the best info out of me) but, with some alcohol in my system when Spirit talks, I don’t feel it. The clairsentience is turned off.
The empathic feelings that I liked to turn off was part of what led me into a deep depression after my car accident. At that time, in addition to the depression from the accident I was also wide open and didn’t know how to ground, center and protect. In an effort to deal with the emotions and the irrational feelings, I went to a counselor and a psychiatrist and several alternative therapy practitioners. On the days of my appointments, my mother reminded me not to talk about my communications with Spirit. So I’d go see the mental health practitioners, and then go to my mediumship development classes. The mental health practitioners helped me on the physical and emotional side, but it was only after embracing my gift that I got better and the depression subsided. It’s why I believe so strongly in the Mind-Body-Spirit approach to healing.
I’m a success story. I know it doesn’t work that way for everyone. Everyone’s path, and their pain is different. I know this all too well as my husband and I are currently struggling with the depression he experiences. The more he opens up to Spirit, the worse it’s gotten. Over the past year we’ve argued time and time again over his need to seek help. We had a cycle, he’d hold things in which would lead to depression, then anger, which would make me mad and then we’d yell (our arguments RARELY get loud.) After that it would get better for a little while. Unfortunately, these cycles went from months to weeks to only a couple days. At the beginning of the year, I broke down and told him he had to see someone. I couldn’t do it anymore. He’d been hesitant to go to a counselor as he didn’t want to be like me and hide his spirituality. Fortunately, at our breaking point, Spirit presented Don with a counselor who understands and is accepting of the fact that my husband and I communicate with Spirit. The sign Don needed.
Don’s journey to mental health is going to be a long and hard, it always is. And, probably lifelong. But, at least he has taken the first (second and third) steps: he’s acknowledged the problem, knows he has the power to change it AND has sought help. Now it’s in Spirits hands and just a matter of time.
Dawn Lynn is an EveryDay medium. She lives and breathes via her intuition, which as a fourth generation intuitive from a family of Spiritualists came easily. Her abilities became apparent in early childhood and were cultured by a supportive family. Through her Blogs and Vlogs, she wants to help you become the EveryDay medium too.