One of my favorite sayings (and I apologize if I’m being redundant) is: “What you don’t see with your eyes, don’t invent with your words.”
As a medium, it is important that I embrace this philosophy. People come to me not only to connect with their loved ones, but also seeking sage advice or words of wisdom. This has become apparent the past couple weeks, here’s an example.
A close friend, Mitch, attempted suicide the Tuesday before Thanksgiving. Fortunately, unlike my step brother, Mitch was unsuccessful and we (my husband and I) have been able to offer support to both him and his new wife.
In an effort to get Mitch home for the holiday, he was released into the custody of his mother, a psychiatric nurse, Wednesday. Mitch and Courtney, his wife, stayed at his parent’s home through the holiday. On Black Friday, it was back to the daily grind and his family had places to be. To ensure his friend wasn’t alone, Don visited him. Knowing this and extending the time before she returned to her in-laws, Courtney, after getting off of work reached out to me. Hearing the tears and frustration in her voice, I invited her over to talk.
We hugged. She cried. I listened. And then Spirit (as they so often do), spoke.
Through me they expressed concerns about situations/issues that she and Mitch were likely to encounter in the coming days. This included a forceful message that at this time, they needed to stand united not divided. She and her husband are still newlyweds (only 3 months!!) this would be a defining moment for the two of them. Spirit encouraged them to work and make decisions together, rather than allowing his strong-willed family (did I mention he’s Latino) run the show.
No sooner had the message passed my lips, her phone rang! It was her husband and she was immediately presented with a situation Spirit had cautioned her about. When I heard her echoing the message (albeit rawer), I recognized the impact words can have and was reminded of the responsibility being a messenger of Spirit brings!!
That being said, I, despite the fall-out and struggles Courtney and Mitch have faced as a result of her decisions for them, stand by what was passed through me that day. It was pure and from Spirit. However, it reinforced the importance of being able to recognize my thoughts from those presented by Spirit and not interpret what the message means… only then, can I stay true to Spirit’s intention. Because although I consider myself wise and some would put me (and other mediums) on a pedestal, I’m NOT God. And if I insert my thoughts or feelings, I stand to corrupt Spirit’s message and the results can be devastating. So, at this point I’ll repeat – “What you don’t see with your eyes, don’t invent with your words.”
There are times that being a medium sucks and I wish I could be “oblivious” to Spirit like the majority of our population. This week was one of those times.
Over the past few weeks, I’d had an awful wrenching feeling in the pit of my stomach. In addition to the feeling, I’ve “known” there would be a death in the family on or around Thanksgiving. Catch is… I didn’t know who.
Logically I thought Don and I were going to lose one of our remaining grandparents – my Nana (she’s 91!) has had a series of mini strokes since this summer, my husband’s Mom-Mom is in rehab after breaking her back (osteoporosis), and his grandmother’s husband, Bill, is in a nursing home after a series of strokes. Each has a limited life span, so it made sense that it would likely be one of them. With this in mind, I had prepared myself and my husband mentally for a loss of one of them. I’d even mentioned to several friends, “I have a bad feeling. Both my grandfathers died on Thanksgiving, I think I may be losing another grandparent this holiday.”
As it turns out, I wasn’t wrong about the feeling. I was wrong, however, about the person. On Wednesday evening, my stepbrother committed suicide.
I wasn’t particularly close to him – we saw each other on the holidays and that was about it. But there has been a tremendous amount of guilt. I KNEW something was going to happen. And I’m usually able to use these feelings to help guide other people. Why couldn’t I use the feeling to help my own family?
The reason is… I probably wasn’t meant to. As I tell many clients, I’m not going to get anything that you don’t have the control to change. And I know, there was nothing anything could have done for my stepbrother. That being said, knowing there was going to be a loss… Don and I were prepared for the shock. Guess I won’t be turning in my “gift” just yet….
Dawn Lynn is an EveryDay medium. She lives and breathes via her intuition, which as a fourth generation intuitive from a family of Spiritualists came easily. Her abilities became apparent in early childhood and were cultured by a supportive family. Through her Blogs and Vlogs, she wants to help you become the EveryDay medium too.