We are in a time where people are awakening left and right. Hence it should not surprise me that whenever I turn around I hear about another medium or healer who is breaking into the business. This can be evidenced by the number of Lily Dale mediums. Right now there are 55!! Whereas back in 2008 there were only 40.
It is exciting to realize that so many individuals are coming into their gifts and that consciousness is shifting. That being said, every time I see a new reader, remnants of the old paradigm and my ego rear their ugly heads and causing me to wonder, “What makes them think they are good enough to be a professional medium?”
I realize this is motivated COMPLETELY by the fear as the real question that is running through my head is, “Are they going to take my clients?”
Trust me, I know that is a foolish thought. I have worked hard over the years to establish myself and have been fortunate to be busier than ever (probably because so many people ARE awakening). And because I whole heartedly believe in the law of attraction, I do believe there is enough abundance to go around to everyone.
After rationalizing these fears, I am very quickly able to put them to bed. A concern I have struggled with and don’t quite know what to do about is – What is the quality of the readers hanging up their shingle?
As I mentioned, I have worked hard to establish myself. I am also proud of my profession and have high standards for my colleagues. Perhaps it is wrong, but I do believe all mediums need to live by a code (click here to read mine).
With this in mind, I often find myself wondering what code do these new mediums live by? How have they been trained? And, what standard of reading do they provide?
I am not delusional and am quite aware that there are established mediums that do not live by a code. I am also quite aware that there are mediums who have been doing this a long time that aren’t very good.
So my hope is that these new mediums have taken the following into account. And if you are thinking about reading professionally, here is my advice to you…
A practice circle with peers is instrumental in continuing to hone you gift. But also be certain to dole out the cash and work with a professional. The professional will be able to mentor and prepare you with skills to be able to sustain the rigors of passing message after message.
People are often surprised when I share that I went to “school” to develop my mediumship. They ask, “I thought you were always a medium?” or “I didn’t think you could train for this sort of thing? I thought you were or you weren’t.” My response to these questions is: yes, I always was a medium and while the classes didn’t necessarily help me open up and receive messages they did was help me focus the message as well as ground, center and protect myself. These skills are what enables me to conduct five to seven readings a day on a continual basis.
Just because my husband knows a little about electrical circuits doesn’t mean he should go about rewiring our house or more to the point offer to rewire someone else’s. That could be dangerous! There is a reason electricians are licensed. Same thing with mediums. Unfortunately, except for organizations like Lily Dale that do register their mediums, there are few places that have a process for certifying individuals. is not a unified process to license mediums. This can and does circle back to my first point however, take classes. These classes ARE what credentials you.
Just because you can do readings doesn’t mean you should. It is important to question what your motivations are for doing the work. Is it because it gives you a rush? Or makes you feel special? Is it because you think you it’s going to make you a lot of money? If any of these are your motivations, you may want to reconsider.
Remember mediumship and spiritual advising IS a profession. As such, it’s important to carry yourself in a professional manner. A teacher once told my class, “You need to dress the part.” At the time, I was incredibly offended thinking, “What right does she have to tell me what to wear.” But you know what, she was right. I may not go over the top with the airy fairy or hippie look, but I do dress to project a personality. And that goes beyond just dress, but also carries over into all of my marketing materials.
You might think you are hot stuff during message circles as your peers sing your praises. A message you pass during a practice circle is VERY different than one you would pass during a professional session. For one, the message will be much longer. In a typical circle you may pass a message that is ten or maybe fifteen minutes in length, whereas during a session it could last up to an hour. Additionally, while a peer may be excited and help you piece together a message with limited details, your clients will expect to you piece it together and provide them with evidence that you are connected. They are the ones paying you, after all, and expect you to do the work.
Know What You Are Getting Yourself Into
Mediumship is more than a full-time job. The more you do, the more both spirit and your clients expect of you. It is not uncommon for a spirit to show up early for a reading. It is also not uncommon for them to "hang out" and talk to me beforehand. I've worked hard to set up my boundaries and ask them to leave. Additionally, you will find that clients want you (and some expect you to be available) at all times. I've had people call me in the middle of the night, frantic to talk RIGHT AWAY. Before I smartened up and got a business line, this was daunting. Learn to set your boundaries.
What You Say Matters
Finally, remember that what you say and what you do really does matter. You will likely (and I encourage you to for legal purposes) advertise that all sessions are for entertainment purposes only. Despite this disclaimer, people really do take what you say to heart. As a result, what you say has real impacts on people’s lives.
If after considering these things, you are still ready to hang your shingle. I have one more word of advice.
Take Time for You
There was a time when I was first starting out I would take whatever reading I could get. At the time I was working my day job and was squeezing reading in on my clients' schedule. This meant I was working late nights and weekends. I was easily working 80 hours a week. Even after I left my day job and wasn’t working then, when I worked on my clients’ schedules I would have a reading then a few hour break then another then a break. The turning myself on and off become exhausting. Before long I found myself very sick and burnt out. Since then I make sure I take time for myself. I take Wednesdays off and try to take some weekends as well. I’m better for my husband and daughter. I’m better for myself. AND, I’m better for my clients.
With all that said, I am happy to know the troop of light workers is growing. Good luck to each of you on your individual journey, whatever path that may lead you down.
A concept that has always amazed me is universal consciousness. What is universal consciousness? Also know as panpsychism, universal consciousness is the intelligent spider-web that connects every living (and non-living) thing in the universe. It can be used to explain synchronicities. It can also explain why individuals can independently come up with the SAME great at the SAME time.
Have you ever wondered how you and a colleague could come up with the SAME solution to a problem, even when the two of you aren’t working on the solution together? Universal consciousness.
Or why all of television networks are launching the same type of NEW programming? Be it reality tv or supernatural programs or legal dramas? They may have been snooping on each other. But it is more likely they all had the same idea (universal consciousness) and the spying on their competitors cemented what they were already planning on.
Universal consciousness can even be seen in scientific discoveries. For example, fission and fusion, new concepts around the time of World War I and II. While Teller and Oppenheimer are credited with their discovery, there is documentation similar research was occurring independently (and in secret) around the globe. Serendipity? More likely the universal consciousness at work.
It happens all the time. It actually happened to me this week!
The synchronicity actually began in 2014 while I was in the shower – that’s where I get my BEST ideas. I got the concept, “Where is Dawn Lynn.” And playing on the concept of Where in the World is Carmen Sandiego or Where’s Waldo, it is exactly as it sounds – Where IS Dawn Lynn? A scavenger hunt, what’s more fun than that? The prize of course! The player who is able to “find” me, not only gets bragging rights but also wins a free/reduced rate reading.
I was so excited about this concept that I purchased the domain, I wrote up rules and guidelines, and even launched it. Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to maintain the project and it fell to the back burner.
It was abandoned, but not forgotten.
Last month with prodding from my guides, I decided to re-launch it. To hold myself accountable, I announced the promotion in my April Newsletter. And come the first week of the month, I got right on it. First location, my alma mater, Allegheny College. The next week, was at Lotus Salon. Both times within the hour, someone had guessed!
It has been exciting and fun. AND, I’m looking forward to keeping it going.
You’re probably saying to yourself, “OK, that’s great… but where does the universal consciousness come in?”
Well I’m getting to that. You see this past weekend I noticed a Facebook posting from a colleague of mine is doing the same thing! Although we are connected via social media, I am ashamed to say I don’t really follow her so am uncertain as to whether or not the promotion has been done before. Or if Spirit who had been pushing me to do it had begun to push her as well. Or perhaps like T-Mobile and Sprint who saw Verizon’s ball commercial and thought it was brilliant, she saw me doing it and thought it was a great idea. Whatever the case may be, the universe really does seem to keep us connected with a universal thought.
Wonder what the next big idea will be!
When I started my career in the metaphysical community more than nine years ago, my colleagues on the psychic fair circuit told me, “If you are going to do the fairs, you NEED a banner. You should contact Linda Donaldson. She is a graphic designer and she is the best!”
I procrastinated. At the time, I was still only dipping my toe in the water and was uncertain I really wanted to be reading people. With that in mind, I didn’t want to spend the money on an expensive sign. More importantly, I didn’t know who this Linda was or how to get ahold of her. So I continued to do fairs without a sign.
As I continued to do more and more events which resulted in more and more private readings, the uncertainty began to turn into clarity that I really did love doing readings. It was about that time that I began looking around the fair circuit and realize that in order to look professional, I really did need a sign. But at that point, I still didn’t know who this Linda that everyone was talking to was.
Then I finally met her.
At a fair in Lewiston, I was placed next to Bruce Donaldson. He is a wonderful tarot reader and healer who also just so happens to be Linda’s husband. She wasn’t there on Saturday, but on Sunday she showed up to front Bruce’s table. As fate would have it, it was a slow Sunday so she and I had a chance to talk.
She is a funny, charismatic woman who immediately made me comfortable. Before I knew it she was talking to me about creating a sign and by the end of the fair I was handing over a check as down payment.
Within weeks she had me a proof of the design. She did a BEAUTIFUL job. It had elements that resonated with me such as the tree of life, the phases of the moon, celtic text, a turtle and hare. She was inspired.
This banner became my logo. I used it on my business cards and brochures. The CDs clients get to take home with them were adorned by it. My husband even modified my website to have the elements incorporated.
While I still love the sign, over the last year I began to feel it didn’t tell my story. It began to feel too busy with too much going on. I found myself yearning for a new, fresh and clean image.
Knowing that Linda prided herself on my sign – she has told me more than once she thinks it is one of the best she has ever done – I hesitated in contacting her. And rather than going directly to her, I opted decided I’d try Fiverr.
THAT WAS A BIG MISTAKE. Now, I bet they do fantastic work for some but unfortunately the person I went with lacked luster. Rather than offering me a new look, the designer took what I already had and just retooled it. I ultimately walked away without a logo and $125 poorer.
With my tail between my legs after that big OOPS, I contacted Linda. She was happy to help. We went through the same process as before. You see she talks with each client asking them a host of questions. She asked me about colors and themes, my likes and dislikes, and if there was anything I really didn’t want.
It then sat. She (and Spirit) noodled it. You see, I believe mediumship comes in various formats and her ability to create graphics is the way Spirit speaks to her. And she, fortunately, doesn’t push just waits for the inspiration to hit.
Knowing her process, I waited patiently. And when I got my first rounds of designs to review, I knew she was on the right path. They needed a little retooling, but on the right path.
She played with them and would send me edits. But nothing was quite coming out just right. Then one day she sent me one that I had never seen before with the comment, “I know this is different… but what do you think.”
I LOVED IT.
And with minimal tweaking, it was ready to go.
She works miracles, because quite honestly when we started – I HAD NO IDEA WHAT I WANTED. All I knew was that I wanted something different that was concise, clean and not too fluffy. That’s what I got!
Want to check out my new look? Check out my website, www.revdawnlynn.com
My husband lost his grandmother this week.
Last week we found out she had terminal, stage four cancer. So we knew it was coming. But, we didn’t know when. Fortunately, she didn’t suffer too long and went peacefully.
Despite the peaceful nature of her passing, my husband is taking it particularly hard as it brings back the memories of his father’s passing. Don’s dad passed suddenly when he was ten in a motorcycle accident. It is a pain my husband has carried with him for the last twenty-five years that only in the last year with the help of a fantastic counselor, Frederick Marschner, has he been beginning to deal with.
His healing has been a long process as it extends beyond just his dad’s death. You see Don’s parents were divorced when his dad died and his father had custody. So prior to his father’s passing, Don and his brother lived with his father and grandmother. As a result of his father’s passing, his mother subsequently obtained custody and moved him and his brother hundreds of miles away from his grandmother and the only life he knew.
The death of his grandmother brings some of this to the surface. He is faced with going back to the place his father passed. He faced a sound in his uncle’s voice that he hadn’t heard since his dad died. He knows he’ll be seeing family he hasn’t seen since his dad’s funeral. The biggest fear, he will find himself at his father’s grave, as it is right next to his grandmother’s.
These are the typical emotional concerns any individual would face upon a loved one’s passing. In addition to this (and perhaps in an effort to not feel the grief) Don is worrying about practical issues. As you probably know, both my husband and I are self-employed. As such, neither Don nor I can just call into the office and say, “There has been a death in the family, see you next week.” Rather, we are responsible for getting our affairs in order before we leave for the services.
Looking at this week’s schedule (it was a busy one!), the prospect of having to make more than a dozen calls to reschedule quickly became overwhelming to him. This caused him begin to doubt whether or not it was worth it to go down. Fortunately, he quickly realized he would have regrets if he didn’t go. But, still trying to avoid the hassle of managing our schedules, he encouraged me to stay home.
Knowing this was a knee-jerk reaction to the amount of work that was quickly piling up, my response without hesitation was, “If you are going, I’m going. Family comes first.”
At first he didn’t accept that. He worried about the clients that were scheduled. He worried about my professional relationship with New World Gifts, WillowLight and more than anything Buffalo Underground, a group I would be offering a class to for the first time. He worried about everything.
More firmly I repeated, “Family comes first.” Followed by, “What good is my gift, be it to communicate with loved ones or provide spiritual support during times of grieving, if I can’t use it to help my family?”
He began to offer objections. But I cut him off telling him, “If my clients don’t understand that, they are not meant to see me nor do I really want to see them.”
As it turns out my clients, at least from what I can tell, have been understanding. And, rescheduling was a lot easier than my husband anticipated. Within a couple hours, most people were rescheduled as they understood that while death is the one thing in life that in inevitable, it is also something you can’t plan. They also understood that family comes first.
Dawn Lynn is an EveryDay medium. She lives and breathes via her intuition, which as a fourth generation intuitive from a family of Spiritualists came easily. Her abilities became apparent in early childhood and were cultured by a supportive family. Through her Blogs and Vlogs, she wants to help you become the EveryDay medium too.