If you have attended a development class of mine you know that I am a stickler for punctuality. I firmly believe that we need to be respectful of not only the other people who are attending the class’s time, but also Spirit’s.
This focus on punctuality likely goes back to high school where I had a teacher, Mr. Rooney, who was strict on starting class on time. He had a unique way of reinforcing this rule. Rather than handing out detentions to students that arrived late, he required the tardy students stand at the front of the class and sing. His song of choice, Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer.
His strategy of calling people out has stuck with me for many years. Perhaps because I sang that song A LOT. But, also because it was an effective “punishment.” You better believe I tried my darnedest to get to his class on time.
As an adult, I implemented similar techniques in both business meetings and development classes. I always start no more than five minutes after the start time. We are all busy people after all!! If someone shows up late (without notice that is), I never repeat myself and they are called out. My students all know that if they are late they risk being put in the middle of the circle and asked to deliver at least one message. Doesn’t happen all the time, but you never know when the mood might strike me.
I am grateful for this technique as it rarely fails me… people are almost always on time.
I have come to realize this is a rarity. In many meetings or classes I attend, the session doesn’t actually start until 15 to 20 minutes after the stated start time to “give leeway for travel.” This always surprises and, to be honest, annoys me.
But after a recent meeting when the facilitator started on time (citing my rule), it became apparent that people had come to expect the leeway. Noting this, I realized it was more than the technique that works for me. It is also the Law of Attraction – you will attract what you expect to attract. I have the expectation that people will be on time, as a result they are. This facilitator hoped people would be on time, but perhaps didn’t really believe they would.
This realization made me realize how deeply embedded Spiritual “rules” are in our day to day. As we live our beliefs, they become our reality. And, it made me chuckle to reflect on how seemingly innocuous events, like singing Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer, can shape who we become.
As a medium, I love when my clients have a healthy skepticism. This skepticism not only makes me work a little harder to demonstrate life does continue after death, but it also leaves me with a greater sense of satisfaction in my work as the proof converts the skeptic into a believer that now has a feeling of peace and hope. It is why I practice evidential mediumship.
Sometimes that skepticism goes a little too far. In my years reading I have witnessed people going to great lengths in an effort to thwart any mentalism or visible cues that would give insight into their life. People have taken off their wedding rings before the reading so I didn’t know they were married. Worn clothing to cover up tattoos of loved ones names. At house parties, people have admitted to hiding family photos so I can’t size up who is missing. I’ve even had clients hesitant to give my husband a name while booking and have asked, “Is she going to Google me?”
I completely understand this fear, I AM a skeptic! (For more about that check out my blog I Get Readings TOO) Despite the fact that I do some of these same things, seeing my clients do them always makes me chuckle because those actions are completely unnecessary.
First off, for those of you who worry a reader might be Googling you. Quite honestly, the time it would take to gather the information necessary to convince you I’m the real deal is not worth the money being exchanged for the reading. Especially since it has been my experience it is not the information that I can Google that is going to convince you your loved one is really there. My clients are more impressed when I tell them their loved ones favorite flavor ice cream than when I hit the name.
Secondly, the cues you might be afraid the reader is going to pick up on actually mean less than you think they do. I actually try very hard NOT to look at a person as the subtle cues throw me off.
So for you hopeful skeptics out there who wish to be wowed, here are some tips on how to get the best reading.
Hope these tips help, they are only a few of many. And remember, skepticism balanced with an open mind is what is going to get you the best reading. With this in mind, I hope your next reading blows your socks off.
My dear friend had a little girl in November. This little Scorpio is beautiful (love her big blue eyes), happy (love her coos) and independent. At two months she is already demonstrating her mother’s independence and the strong will she showed when she visited the table tipping table before she was even here.
My friends have been blessed with her. And, for the most part she has been an easy baby.
Since she has been born, her mom and dad have been brought to tears more than once trying to feed and put weight on her.
Their plan had been to breastfeed. But due to a number of obstacles, despite their valiant efforts, mom and baby were unsuccessful. And little one grew slowly.
So they transferred the baby over to a diet that consisted solely of formula. Success! They were FINALLY getting on a consistent feeding schedule. Baby Girl was eating well. Most importantly, she was finally gaining weight.
But then something changed. Baby Girl’s formula intake dramatically decreased and she would eat no more than an ounce at a time. She was also becoming crankier. The fussiness would hit a point when she would then take more than a whole bottle. And then the cycle would continue.
Exhausted and concerned (especially because she is returning to work in the near future), my friend came to me and said, “Dawn… do you think you can you talk to her? Find out what is wrong?”
The question hadn’t even finished leaving my friend’s mouth when this cute little voice responded, “It’s different. I liked the other better.”
It was amazing how clearly she spoke. Feeling like the Baby Whisperer, I relayed the message.
At first, the message didn’t make sense. Unfortunately, I could provide no more details. That evening however, it clicked. My friend realized she had changed the type of water she was using. To test the theory, she changed the water back. Sure enough, her little ate a little more. Not perfect, but getting there.
Watching my friends (who are intuitive mind you!) struggle to figure out their little one’s wants and desires makes me feel so blessed to have the communication I do with my own Baby Girl. I don’t know how people manage without spidey senses!!! They have made life sooooooooo much easier.
I also feel blessed that my friends’ baby is already turning to me, Aunt Dawn, to convey some of those messages. I hope as she grows up I’ll be able to remain one of her confidants. And, hopefully teach her and her mom to use their intuition to communicate more.
Spirit has a funny way of putting what you need right in your path. Before Baby Girl was born, Don and I decided we wanted a photographer to come out to get some newborn shots. We’d been talked about it for some time and looked at images we’d like to recreate, but never decided upon a photographer. That is until one morning (still more than a month before my due date) when the urge struck me and I began researching newborn photographers in the Buffalo area like a fiend.
I did one google search after another, changing keywords until I hit that sweet spot. And then, as with any good research, I found myself checking out portfolio after portfolio; resume after resume.
I was on a mission. The fact that I had a meeting that morning didn’t derail me. I was determined to pick a photographer that day. To optimize my time, I continued the search on my smartphone. And at each stop light (much to my husband’s chagrin) I shoved my phone in my husband’s face demanding, “What do you think about this one??” If he liked what he saw, the URL was copied and sent in an e-mail cataloging potential photographers.
It is an understatement to say that morning, I was obsessed.
The obsession didn’t subside when I arrived at my friend’s home. But knowing we had business to get to, I put my phone away, pulled out my notes, poured a cup of coffee and sat down ready to work.
That is until a friend and colleague walked through the door. When she did, I stopped the conversation I was in dead in its tracks realizing why the bug had struck. Across the room I blurted, “Colin is a photographer.” And I knew I didn’t need to look any further.
Who is Colin? Her son. And yes, he is a photographer and a very good one at that.
I was fairly confident I now knew what Spirit had in mind. We were meant to ask Colin to do our baby shoot. But, to this point, he’d always focused on landscape photography. So I asked his mom if she thought he would be interested in doing a baby shoot. Turns out, he had recently turned his attention to doing some family photography. Coincidence? I think not!
She gave us his card. As soon as we got home, I reached out to him. And sure enough, everything fell into place.
Four days after Baby Girl was born he and his lovely assistant came out. And despite her fussing (she REALLY hated the flash), we got some amazing photos. Thank you Spirit and thank you Colin Collins!
Dawn Lynn is an EveryDay medium. She lives and breathes via her intuition, which as a fourth generation intuitive from a family of Spiritualists came easily. Her abilities became apparent in early childhood and were cultured by a supportive family. Through her Blogs and Vlogs, she wants to help you become the EveryDay medium too.