But, because I do get that question, I thought in today’s Blog I would talk about being psychic.
When one is psychic, there is the misconception that s/he knows everything. Not only does a psychic NOT know everything, but they also don’t WANT to know everything. Check out this video for more on that topic.
Because a psychic doesn’t know everything, you may find that during a reading they ask you questions. For the skeptic, this is a red flag. Again, if they are psychic, shouldn’t they know?
While I can’t answer why every reader asks questions during a reading, I can tell you why I may ask a question during a reading.
At the beginning of my reading after my spiel, I always ask: Do you have any questions?
This is not me asking, Why are you here? Although some do interpret it that way. In fact, I would rather NOT know why you are there. I would rather NOT know your life story. The less I know, the more authentic the reading will be and you are less likely to think I am just feeding you back what you have already told me.
What I am asking when I ask "Do you have any questions?" is do you understand my process.
And just because I don’t want to know a lot of information, doesn’t mean I don’t ask any questions.
So what type of question do I ask? My most common question is: You have or are X, correct? For example, “you are married, correct?” Or “your father is in Spirit, correct?”
You might think that these questions are meant to dig out personal information. It’s not. In fact, these questions, if asked, are inserted only after I have given you a great deal of information about a situation or person. And the reason I ask the question is this… I’m fairly certain I already know the answer. That’s why it is a statement phrased as a question. BUT, if I’m wrong and am misinterpreting the information, I will confuse the sitter.
For example, say I’m sitting with a person and I receive information about a relationship and that information leads me to believe the person is married. I might ask that person if they are in fact married. If they are, I’m confirming the information and can move on. If they are not, I can describe the person I intuit is their partner more fully. The person I end up describing may be a significant other they have been with for years. Depending on the relationship, that person may even be a friend or sibling they live with. If I had called either of these people spouse, the sitter may have been confused or dismissed the information. When they say no and I describe the person more fully, they then may realize it is another person.
By asking the question, it gives me the opportunity to clarify. It doesn’t mean I don’t know. It just means the information I am interpreting may need more explanation. Remember, interpreting the signs and feelings can sometimes be hard.
So, I ask. But notice how I ask. I specifically ask a yes/no question. The reason it isn’t open-ended? I don’t want you to supply me with too much information. I simply want to make sure I am on the right track and you understand. Why would I need to do this? You’d be surprised how many people smile, nod and like a sponge soak in the information but are completely lost. If they are completely lost and walk away from the reading thinking I’m off my rocker, I’m not doing my job.
Those are the questions I ask. There are a few questions I don’t ask, but depending on who is reading you, are completely valid.
- Your Full Name: I know many worry that by giving the reader their full name it gives the reader the opportunity to search them online. While some fraudulent readers may do this, for most readers it is not worth their time. So why might a reader want your full (first, middle, last and maiden) name? If they are a numerologist, this information can offer a great deal of insight. One might think this information may only offer insight on who the person is, but it can also inform what the person may be experiencing right now. These types of readings can be quite in depth and some readers like to prepare before the session.
- Your Birthdate, Birth Time and Birth Location: Again, the reader is likely not asking you this to research you but rather pull together information to assist with the reading. Both numerologists and astrologers will ask for this information. This is particularly important for an astrologer as charts can be quite in depth. It’s also important when giving information to an astrologer you be as precise as possible. The difference of a couple of hours can make a difference.
- Your specific question: Not all, but some tarot readers like to have a specific question you are seeking resolution to. By having a specific inquiry, the skilled reader can use the cards to provide the sitter with specific details. They can also tailor the questions to provide the sitter with guidance.
- Who, specifically, you want to talk to: Some mediums may ask for a name or relationship. They may also ask for an item of that person’s, called psychometry. This is the manner through which some mediums connect.
Readers ask questions because they want you, the sitter, to get the best reading possible. They each also have unique methodologies and skill sets. In fact, many readers have developed skills in many of the intuitive arts from astrology, mediumship, numerology, palm reading, runes, psychic and tarot. Having all these skills, it is not uncommon for them to pull upon all the tools in their toolkit to give you a reading. For a better idea of what to expect, research the tools the reader uses, it may help you understand why they are asking the question.