Surprisingly, it is a conversation that comes up a lot in readings. You’d be surprised how many people at the end of their reading ask, “any idea what the outcome of the election is going to be?” I’ve even had people ask my intuitive daughter, “Trump or Clinton?”
I don’t know. She doesn’t know. Even if I did, I wouldn’t say. But fortunately, I don’t.
In fact, knowing has been further complicated for me because at different times in my life I have had feelings that BOTH candidates would be president. Around the time the first George Bush was running for president and Trump was still married to Ivana, I remember thinking he was going to be president someday. But, I also remember thinking during the Clinton/Monica Lewinski scandal around the time when Primary Colors came out that Hillary would be president at some point.
How do I explain this? Well, while I was a child that was intuitive and supported, I was not trained or mature enough to navigate the nuances of premonitions and insights. Not savvy at readings the signs at the time, I could have been observing the election. It’s also very likely that, since the future is always a moving target, at the different points in time each had the opportunity to become president.
And with those thoughts, I digress. Especially since, as I mentioned, I don’t have any idea who is going to prevail at the end of the day. And quite honestly, while I have my preference, I don’t want to talk about the candidates. There is enough of that occurring in the media. Nor do I want to talk about the issues… although I WISH the issues would have gotten more air time.
But unfortunately, the issues didn’t get air time because the candidates have been busy degrading one another. It occurred in the primaries. And it has continued through the general election – both on a national and local level. The mudslinging has created an energy that is vile. Neither party has followed diplomatic decorum.
The lack of diplomacy in the election scares me. These are the people who will be representing our values and interests on a national, statewide and local level. Our politicians are the individuals who are supposed to be skilled in negotiating and finding compromise. Shouldn’t our hope be that our adversaries respect them for fairness and diplomacy? As the quote goes “honey catches more flies than vinegar.”
And how has this impacted our culture?
From my personal experience, in the last month, I have seen an increase in inconsideration and rudeness among individuals. Everything from a truck pulling a tractor turning head on into my husband and my car. We were stopped at a stop sign mind you. And in doing so, our car was pushed off the road. The driver’s response as he further pinned us on the side of the street, “you are in my way.” To a woman standing in front of me at a grocery store saying to the cashier, “Please shut up. I don’t want to talk to you.” I guess we could find the positive in that she said please?
Are individuals being more hurtful to one another because speaking one’s mind is valued more than being kind? And being hurtful is acceptable? Has emotional and verbal abuse become status quo? And whomever has the wittiest, harshest response – regardless of truth – wins?
If this is the case, to what end? Being hurtful doesn’t make anyone feel good. The person receiving the insult feels beaten down. And the person dishing the insult often feels guilty or unsatisfied. Even the people who may be observing the interaction are negatively impacted by the exchange. And, in many cases the truth is lost and perception is king.
For example, in the grocery store, there was a palpable tension. As the smile left the cashier’s face, it was apparent she was hurt. I felt icky and felt myself stiffen and shift awkwardly, as did the person behind me. Now yes, the cashier was a little annoying. More talkative than was necessary and it was holding up the line. BUT, the cashier was trying to be friendly and there was no need for the coldness… no matter how bad a day the person ahead of me was having.
Witnessing this, I felt compelled to change the energy and bring positivity into the space. What did I do? Noticing the woman behind me only had a couple items. I added them to my order. It brought her joy. The smile returned to the register operator’s face. And then the cashier told me, “Ma’am, you are a good lady. You just earned some bonus points with the big guy. Karma is a real.” Hearing a stranger talk about karma made me smile. It was simple.
That type of world is the world I want to live in. Unfortunately, come election day, I don’t think the candidates who win and become our representatives are going to create that world for us. That is up to us. So, I want to encourage you to choose your candidate wisely and go out and VOTE tomorrow. More importantly, I also what to urge you to be kind. Rather than stoop to the levels we see our candidates at, next time you find yourself wanting to say something hurtful or find yourself judging a person or situation, stop yourself. As you stop yourself, I encourage you to smile and do something nice. Each act of kindness makes the world a better place and the ripple effect is amazing.