If you aren’t familiar with the book, the story follows the afterlife of Eddie. He has passed and before he can cross into heaven he needs to meet five people. These five individuals are people he never would have expected to greet him, they crossed his path and he only faintly remembered them. They however remembered him. The lesson in the book is that small actions we take impact people more than we know.
This story resonates with me because unlike a psychologist or life coach who sees his or her clients on a weekly or monthly basis, as a medium that’s not my role. In fact, there are clients I know I will see only once, others that come in bursts and I help them work through an event and then years go by, others that wait for the itch, and some who make it an annual visit. Only the minority are more frequent than that. Because of the infrequent nature of my work, I don’t always get to witness my client’s personal evolution.
The book reminds me that an individual doesn’t need to know they had an impact on someone’s life to make a distinct and monumental impact.
And please don’t get me wrong. My job is amazing and rewarding. I wouldn’t choose anything else. In each session I am pleased with the love from your loved ones and the universe. That is the BEST feeling in the world. Not only that, I see the change in people when they leave my office. I receive beautiful cards and emails that always make me smile. And I do have many repeat clients, many who gush over their last reading and recall how their life has evolved. It is beautiful.
It's the best, however, when I actually get to witness the evolution. This weekend, I did.
I was welcomed back into the home of a couple I’ve known for about the last six years. When I first met them, they were living in a small upstairs apartment. It was obvious they were not only madly in love but that they were working towards a future together. The next time I saw them, I wasn’t surprised to learn they had gotten engaged. Not only that, they had moved from the upstairs apartment into the larger downstairs apartment and a beautiful pup had joined their family. They truly were building that life together. During this meeting, I was honored when they asked that I officiate their wedding. Of course I said YES, and that winter they were wed. Over the years they’ve continued to welcome me into their home, so fast forward a couple years to when I welcomed into their new home and met their newest addition, a beautiful baby girl. I continue to be part of this couple’s family, even the furbaby who was a little uncomfortable with the spirits I would bring with me has warmed up. This weekend I was there again. Their home is more beautiful than ever, their little one is growing like a weed and I wouldn’t be surprised if the next time I see them there is another little one.
It was a wonderful blessing to be able to see. But as Albom demonstrates in the book, to lead a fulfilling and meaningful life you don’t need to keep score and be able to measure the good deeds you have done and the impact you have had. Sometimes by not knowing, but just being a good person, you have an even greater impact.