Sometimes it’s clear. A few nights ago, Don dropped me off at Branches of Light so I could get the space ready for class. While I was setting up, he planned to go across the street to pick up a couple of drinks for the evening. As I closed the car door, I thought about the yummy cut-out cookies this grocery store made. Wanting a pair of these cookies, I decided it would be a GREAT time to test out our telepathic skills. Before heading to the door, I paused and consciously thought, “Don…I’m sending you this message. Your wife will love you forever if you get her cookies.” Well, he got the message. When he returned to Branches, with a big grin on his face he handed me a bakery bag filled with cookies. With an equally big grin I simply responded, “You got my message.”
At that time, he was clearly in tune with me. Other times, it’s a little less clear. For example, a few weeks ago while Don was at a client’s site assisting them with an IT problem, I snapped a picture of baby girl to text to him. Within moments of the text being sent, he replied “I was just thinking about and missing my girls.” Did he feel us thinking about him or did we feel him thinking about us? It’s unclear. And it really doesn’t matter. What is obvious is that there is an unspoken communication between us.
This closeness is special and unique. It brings us closer. Unfortunately, as with any good thing it also has its pitfalls. There are times we assume we know what the other is thinking or wants, but because of our personal filters we get it wrong. And that’s when arguments occur…
Recently it’s been over house projects. Spring is upon us, and like any home owner there are a number of projects we want (in some instances need) to get done. On our list we have replacing the sidewalk (the winter was brutal!), re-doing our driveway, re-doing the floors on our first floor, as well as many others. In my mind, I’ve realized that not everything is possible this year but we have to get the sidewalks done. It’s a safety hazard afterall! Unfortunately, this can be costly. Having had this conversation in my head, and assuming Don heard the conversation in my head I thought it was decided. Well, I was wrong. Fortunately, we worked it out… but we had to TALK it out. Something I sometimes forget.
Long and the short of it, although we are blessed to be able to communicate via another avenue… it’s important that we remember it’s good to do it the old fashioned way as well. Talking things out is always the best way to go.