Despite being something that everyone experience, there are a lot of unknowns about death. Where do we go? Do we in fact go someplace? Or is death an end to everything? If I do go someplace, could it be bad? Is there a hell? If there is, did I do something that will doom me to there?
People often also wonder, does death hurt? Am I going to suffer? Am I going to know when it’s time? Am I going to end up alone?
With questions like these, it’s no wonder people fear death. I know there is a part of me that does when I think, ‘What really happens to me?’
Fortunately, for me, I have a little bit of inside knowledge from all the loved ones who have come back and shared a glimpse of the other side. And this is what I know…
First and foremost, when we die we leave everything we know behind. We shed our corporeal body, the way we touch, feel smell, see and experience the world around us. Food tastes different. Music sounds different.
I also know that when we die, it’s sad. Why? Because even the biggest hermit out there is leaving SOMEONE behind. Someone they love. Someone who loves them. And, it is inevitable that it’s going to be days, weeks, perhaps years before you are reunited. That’s scary. I know there are somedays I have a hard time be separated from my daughter for the six, eight, ten hour work day… the thought of being separated from her for not only days but likely years is heart wrenching…
So no wonder death is scary. But then if we think about it, all the events that have sparked personal growth and evolution have been scary. Think about going off to college. Moving to another city or state. Getting married or having a baby. All these things in life are scary. And the fear boils down to one thing, uncertainty.
I wish through what I do I strive to eliminate, or at least minimize the uncertainty of death for my clients and their loved ones. But unfortunately, due to my own limited understanding, I am only minimally successful. Even within my own family.
Despite the negative aspects of death, when my clients ask questions like, “How can I make my mother or father’s passing smoother?” Or, “How can I assure them they are going to be okay?” And, “What can I do to let them know it is okay to pass?” and “Are they okay?” “Is death painful?” This is what I tell them…
First and foremost, I tell people that when an individual passes they are reunited with the loved ones they knew here and well as some of their soul mates that didn’t incarnate with them this lifetime. Very often you’ll see glimpses of this before they pass… for example, my grandmother who suffered a paralyzing stroke on a couple occasions when I’ve visited her has abruptly stopped our conversations, gazed off into the distance only to return to the conversation saying “It’s so pretty there!” and begin talking about my cousin Keith or Christopher, or perhaps my Uncle Dennis… all three of whom have long since passed. When she does this, I am quite aware that the reason she talks about them is because they just came to greet her. She had a glimpse of the other side. And they are waiting.
This gets to my second point, the other side is beautiful. It is filled with love. No more pain. No more sorrow. Just love.
And, despite what it might look like. The moment of death is not painful… it is only the illness, the process, that causes pain. I liken it to giving birth. The pregnancy. The Braxton Hicks. The contractions. All of those components of birth are painful. But the actual delivery, that moment the baby bursts forth and is born is not painful at all. It is actually a relief, and in some instances almost joyous. So once the soul is released from its body, there is no pain.
Now these words… these thoughts may not bring consolation to the individual facing death and it can still be scary. And to alleviate that fear is hard…. If not impossible. It is why we sometimes see people hold on with everything they’ve got only to wonder, what are they fighting for? Anything has to be better than what they are enduring.
It’s for those with family members in those situation that I offer this advice to smooth their passing. Say Goodbye AND Find Your Own Acceptance.
Coming to peace with a loved one’s passing (just as with your own), releases psychic connections to your loved one on this plane. By saying good bye and finding an acceptance to your loved one’s passing, you remove a tether that holds them to this plane. With that one less weight, it is easier for them to move to the other side. It’s why time and time again I hear people say, I just walked out of the room for a moment and in that moment she was gone!
So folks, that’s my limited knowledge of the afterlife and death. I hope that helps enlighten, and bring comfort. I’m certain it’s going to look much different when I get there, but at least I have a sense what I may find.