You see, those people you care about can affect your energy WITHOUT YOU KNOWING IT. Why? Because unlike the stranger or acquaintance who just bumps into your energy – sort of like a fender bender or in some instance more devastating crash – family and friends are inside your world, they are the spark plug or muffler without which you won’t run well, if at all. These connections are called psychic cords or hooks. They explain why a mother instinctively knows when her child becomes hurt or when a friend “coincidently” calls you in the moment you were thinking about them. Your energies are intertwined.
This is a good thing… AND a bad thing.
Having just spoken about the need for protection even from those we love, it was ironic that a situation occurred that blatantly demonstrated the existence of psychic hooks between friends.
It starts innocently. I had happened on this article about emotional affairs. As we have been working to improve our relationship, I found the content interesting and forwarded it on to my husband. Not being one for words (and forgetting that he can’t read my mind), I omitted an explanation as to why I was sending the article. Although I hate to admit it, he appropriately became a little concerned I was accusing him of affairs. The article, which I had though was just good food for thought, ended in a much bigger and more heated discussion than I intended.
Thinking I was accusing him, he asked about our friends. Without thinking (should have used the filter!) I rattled off the names of some mutual friends that I had thought at times the relationship may have crossed the line or there was potential for it to. Seeing him become red, I thought if I explained my rational further he might see where I was coming from and understand. I should have kept my mouth shut. As soon as I started discussing one friend in particular, we both dug our heals in and the debate escalated.
Fortunately… at least in my opinion… I was saved by the bell. The dinging bell of my husband’s phone that is. His attention was immediately diverted from me to the phone. But then I felt and saw it, a frustration washed over him.
Why frustration? Because he suddenly felt defeated. The text was from none other than the friend we were just talking about!!!
And why defeated? For the same reason I felt validated and elated knowing I had just won the heated debate. Her text, in the exact moment we were discussing her relationship with him mind you, demonstrated their psychic connection. As they say, her ears must have been ringing. Because of their connection, on some level she could feel the current status of their relationship from which they both pull emotional support, was in jeopardy. This was further evidenced by the fact that she did not just text once, but more than five times in just as many minutes!!! And with each text, she became more insistent that he contact her as soon as possible.
Stubbornly he said… well I guess I will not be responding to her tonight. Even though my husband wanted to argue the point, he couldn’t. The point was made, and it was clear that there was an unhealthy connection.
Does that mean he has to cut her out of his life and never speak to her again? Not at all! She is a good friend and is someone he has a lot of fun with. What it meant was he needed to identify what connection wasn’t serving him physically, emotionally and spiritually and remove that.
And he did. On the full moon he did a fire ceremony smudging himself with sage and copal releasing those connections. Seems to have done the trick! Since then we’ve talked about the relationship and the phone hasn’t gone off!