It is just as exciting to see an unfamiliar face as well. For these fresh, new faces, I always ask if they have had a reading before. Why? I’m curious and I like to know where someone is coming from.
It is exciting for me when I have someone who has never had a reading before. There is an excitement in them that is unmatched. For people who have had readings before, there are many who have had fabulous ones and I hope I live up to their expectations. And then there are those who have had readings before, but were disappointed. For these individuals, my heart always breaks. They are searching for something. That desire, that need, has gone unfulfilled. Yet, they are unwilling to give up. Hence them sitting in my seat. No pressure, right?? It is for these clients, and my profession, that I want to shine and prove there are good readers out there.
Because unfortunately, there ARE bad readers out there. If you remember Miss Cleo, you know there are readers whose sole purpose is to make money. These individuals will often have a ‘script’ and ask everyone, “Who is Mary or Margaret?” or “What about John?”
Fortunately, these bad readers are few and far between. Most readers are in the profession for the right reason, they want to help people. The majority of readers I know have huge hearts and truly care for their clients. That doesn’t mean they are always good and accurate readers.
If you have a so-so reading here are some things to consider.
Experience: As more and more individuals are discovering their intuition, more and more individuals are taking classes to assist them in developing their psychic or mediumship skills. After taking a class, two, or a whole program that “certifies” them as a psychic medium, many have the heart-felt desire to help individuals with their new found “gift.” These newly minted psychics and mediums hang up their shingle and open for business providing readings.
Unfortunately, a class, two or even a whole program doesn’t always prepare the individual to offer high quality, professional readings. They may have a skill, but not a talent. Let’s liken this to photographers. With a camera on every phone, anyone can look through the back of a camera lens and take a photo. My two year old does all the time! But, these snapshots don’t capture the beauty of a moment like a photographer would. Same thing with readers. It is a talent, and not always something that can be taught.
Fortunately, the longer someone has been doing readings, the more skilled they become – just like the photographer who knows where to look for that perfect shot. Does that mean that the person who has been doing readings for 30 years is always better than the person who has been doing it six months? No. There are some very talented newbies. But, chances are if someone has been around for a while, they have some talent.
Grace: If you have had a reading, you know that they can be emotional. I’d project that at least 85% of my clients tear up if not break into tears at some point during a session. Navigating these emotions and creating an environment of love is part of a reader’s job. And a good reading (at least in my opinion) should be healing. This takes some finesse.
There are some readers who disregard the importance presenting messages delicately and have chosen not to cultivate a finesse. Instead, like a bull in a china shop, messages are delivered in a blunt or flippant manner with disregard for the client’s feelings. I cringe when I hear an individual proudly proclaim they aren’t going to sugar coat anything because the client has to face the truth. If no one else is going to tell them, I will.
Now, this doesn’t mean that a reader should lie to the sitter and tell them what they want to hear. That doesn’t do any good either. But, disregard for their clients’ feelings is unacceptable. Without encouragement, they felt their world was coming to an end.
If this has happened, note that the information may not be as bad as you think. Readers present information in the manner they view the world. If they see the world pessimistically, that is what you are going to get. Think about what they said and how else it could be interpreted.
Ego: As just mentioned, readers see the world through their lens. We have our hopes and dreams. Our favorite places and foods. We readers also have bad days. We get annoyed by our spouses and children. Frustrated with insurance companies, contractors and bad drivers. Unfortunately, when these bad days come, some readers are not good at separating their own issues from the issues their clients face. If a reader is not doing a good job of removing their own thoughts and feelings from a situation, the client is likely to get the reader’s opinion not Spirit’s. For example, there is a colleague of mine that, before I refer anyone to her, I check to see what’s going on in her life. Because when life is good for her, she gives AMAZING readings. They are accurate, funny and inspiring. When she is having personal struggles, particularly in regards to relationships, the readings she gives lack luster and everyone is up to no good.
In these situations, my recommendation is that you trust your own intuition and look for the signs around you. If something doesn’t seem right, if there isn’t evidence to support the assertions, it probably isn’t being translated correctly.
Personality: It should come as no surprise that every reader is different. We are unique individuals, with different experiences and backgrounds. Our training is different. What led us to becoming readers is different. But one thing that is for sure is we are all a little kooky and quirky. Is it a surprise? We talk to Spirit all day.
Because of our quirks, it is important that YOU resonate and are comfortable with us. A statement many clients make that always makes me laugh is: “You’re Dawn Lynn? But you’re so normal looking.” That’s what I strive for – that the client doesn’t see me as much different than themselves. You should look for that in a reader. The more you relate to them as a person, the more likely you will relate to the message they are passing you as it is more likely they will speak your language.
So if you’ve only had a so-so reading, ask yourself… did you feel comfortable with the reader? If not, that’s probably one of the reasons it was only so-so. To get a better reading next time, my recommendation is to look at websites of a few readers then choose the reader that you wouldn’t mind having a drink or coffee with. Why do this? The reader you choose is going to be peering into your soul, talking to your loved ones, and seeing you at your most vulnerable state. If you wouldn’t want to spend the time it takes to have a cup of coffee with any of them, they aren’t the reader for you.
Accuracy: Perhaps you had a reading where the details provided were vague or off the mark. This could be due to experience, as the reader isn’t versed in obtaining detailed information or has a hard time translating it. Or, it could be that the source of the message is being vague and cryptic. For example, I thank the heavens when a loved one steps in and nails the details. Whereas, when a loved one comes in and gives me one word answers I know I have to work a little harder. It is their personalities! In fact, there are even cases that loved ones “lie.” But I liken it to this example. My husband INSISTS he is 6 feet tall. Well, according to the doctor, he is really 5’10” (and shrinking). If he were in Spirit he would insist the same thing, they don’t change. Consider who your loved one was.
Or perhaps you had a reading where predicted outcomes didn’t come to pass. It is important to know that the future is a moving target, and YOU have control over YOUR future. In fact, hearing what is likely to come begins to change what will be. When a reader looks at what is coming, it’s like taking a snapshot and predicting the weather. One can be good at doing that, but that doesn’t mean that something won’t come and change the situation.
Expectations: And, finally, what were your expectations for the reading? Sometimes the expectations are unrealistic. If you are looking for a single phrase or item, you may not get it. Readers aren’t mind readers. Nor are we magic. We are just people like each of you. We translate best we can, and hopefully do a good job of it.
Hope this helps you with a so-so past reading and perhaps get a better one next time around!!