Let’s flash back to 1999. I was a young adult in college. I LOVED crazy, loud parties. I’d go to big soirees and get all dressed up. I loved going dancing with friends. If there was a get together, I was there. And quite frankly, it didn’t matter WHAT night of the week it was. Nor did it matter what time it started. In fact, I often wasn’t heading out the door until at least 11pm.
Now… When I’m told there’s a party, the first thought that goes through my head is: “Can’t I just stay home in my pajamas?”
Knowing that I can’t be anti-social and should really make an appearance at a few events, before I determine which events to attend I ask the following questions:
- What time does it start? The time of not leaving the house until at least 11pm have long since past. Instead, I pray the answer is no later than 6:30pm. Later than that might encroach on my bedtime and unlike my younger self, I can’t function without adequate sleep. AND, I have a toddler who insists on getting me up.
- Where is it? Unlike my younger self who hoped it would be someplace loud, I now hope I hear that it will be at a friend’s home or someplace quiet. A small intimate setting is my preference.
- Who is coming? This was never a concern before, but now I always hope it is only a few, close friends so I don’t have to be on my A game.
Now you might be thinking, “Dawn that’s normal… you are getting older afterall.”
While age and it’s increased responsibilities of a real job and a family definitely play a significant role, I think my desire for quieter more intimate gatherings can also be attributed to my increased awareness of energies, intuition and mediumship.
Why? Because in smaller, quieter parties I don’t have to deal with as much energetic baggage. And let me tell you, the energetic baggage that people carry with them around the holidays is IMMENSE!
What is this energetic baggage that I speak of?
First, it includes Deceased Loved Ones. It has been my experience that during the holidays, deceased loved ones are louder and pushier. They WANT to get their family to know they are around.
Now that is all fine and good. Except I have a rule, when I’m not in with clients… I am OFF the clock. If I’m off the clock, no matter how hard a Spirit pushes, I’m not going to pass a message. Why? Selfishly, I feel I deserve time off. Reading is my job… there should be times when I should have just my thoughts. And secondly, just because the deceased loved one wants to pass the message doesn’t mean that their loved one wants to receive it.
Unfortunately, during the holidays Spirits tend to push that boundary a little further. The larger the crowd, the more Spirits that are pushing and the more work it is to enforce that bubble.
Along this same line of thought, YOU (my friend) may be grieving or missing your loved one who has crossed. The holidays are a time we reminisce and think fondly of our family members who have left the earthly plane. Many wish to be able to have that one last conversation with their loved one.
And then I enter the scene. We may be out to dinner. At a holiday party. On the phone. Or out shopping. Wherever we are, your deceased loved ones not far from our thoughts. It’s human nature, knowing that I do talk to loved ones, to hope that perhaps my rule will be broken. Yet, knowing that I’m “off the clock” and wanting to respect my boundaries… you don’t ask. Even though you don’t verbally ask, the body language and energy does. It’s sort of like the little kid who when a magician asks for a volunteer from the audience and he and wants to wave his arm and yell, “Pick me pick me pick me!’ but instead sits on his hands squirming left and right. You don’t say it… but I know. That can be overwhelming.
What is also overwhelming is peoples AURAS. Your aura and everyone else’s wherever the gathering is. They are supercharged by stress and emotion (good and bad). It is bouncing around all over the place, it is sticky and it is contagious. Think about it for a moment… how much more road rage to you encounter during the holidays than any other part of the year? Is it really because people are driving that much worse, or could it be because the energy just facilitates it.
Alcohol also facilitates the crazy auras. As we know, the liquid libations are often flowing during the holidays, which doesn’t always make situations comfortable for the intuitive.
Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not a prude. I enjoy a glass of wine or heavy beer just as much as the next guy, but I also know that alcohol (especially in excess) inhibits my protection and filters as well as those for people around me. Think about it… when people drink they say things that wouldn’t normally say. I know I do. My friends love to give me a drink or two because they know my filter is down and the words are flowing. Just because I get loose lips and may be connected to Spirit, doesn’t mean it is of Spirit for the highest and best. Hence why I don’t drink when I am reading.
Similarly, I don’t like to read people who are drunk because their boundaries are down and their guides aren’t protecting them as much. Also without the filter, individuals who are drinking are throwing their auras around for everyone to see. Again, it’s overwhelming.
Lastly, this time of year fosters a CURIOSITY as to what is coming next. As a medium, in addition to communicating with loved ones, I communicate with guides and guardian angels. More than anytime else during the year, around the new year my friends and family become curious in regards to what the new year may have in store for them. And they often hope I’ll give them some wise direction. Again, because most have become respectful of my boundaries they don’t outright ask… BUT, their energy SCREAMS – “please tell me what to do!” Instead they do a tap dance…
So while I’m getting old and I just don’t have the stamina to shake it like I did when I was younger, the energy is more my deciding factor than anything else. For my friends, if I seem like I am avoiding you, please don’t take it personal… I’ll see you in January! And for those who have intuitive friends, know that them avoiding you may have less to do with you and more to do with the need to protect their energy.
Another quick tip… if you’ve noticed, most of the stress comes from energy that is bottled up and the questions that are avoided. From an intuitive’s perspective, it is always better to be blunt, open and honest as opposed to biting one’s tongue. We can always feel it… but because you aren’t stating what is going on, we don’t know what to do about it. Help a girl (or guy) out and ask/say what’s on your mind.