Being a medium is kind of the same thing. While I try to take time for the family (and myself), keeping the Spirits around me quiet is sometimes hard to do. You see, because I want to be connected and be alerted by my guides if something needs to be addressed, my “psychic hotline” is always open “just in case.”
As a result, there are occasions while I’m at the grocery store when Spirit approaches me in hopes that I will talk to his/her sister, mother or brother. Or more frequently, a Spirit, waiting for their loved one’s appointment, will pop in early and begin talking with me in hopes of having that appointment come sooner – this happened the other day when a Spirit (at 3am mind you) insisted that I call his wife RIGHT THEN (didn’t happen).
These eager Spirits are kind and usually respectful. In fact, it’s usually MY Spirit family that likes to push the boundaries. For example, my grandfather thinks it is hysterical to pop in with me while I’m in the bathroom taking a shower (a no-no in my house). And my father in law’s favorite time to visit is while my husband and I are lying in bed trying to fall asleep (another no-no). These, however, are the exceptions not the norm. Like I said, Spirit is usually respectful.
Why is that? I think it is because I have learned to say no (one of the hardest things to do). I am protective of my time, being certain to schedule in family and me time and have regular hours during which I will take appointments. And perhaps more importantly I came to the realization that just because the “line” rings, doesn’t mean I have to pick it up. I depend upon my guides to triage these “calls” outside of normal business hours having them serve as my caller id and call forwarding, screening my calls and forwarding those to the appropriate time and place.
This allows me to be open all the time (for my highest and best), and yet at the same time maintain my personal space and not be bombarded by Spirits hoping to get through. My guides are wonderful “bouncers,” being a tough sell to get through.
Now, I just have to remember to trust them. And, more importantly have the restraint not peek at who is calling or why and trust my guides will bring it at the right time. Easier said than done, but I’m working on it! And in the meantime, keeping my line open.